Post # 1
I hope this topic is okay here. It may need to be moved to “emotional”. LOL!!!
Okay, so my wedding has come and gone but I was wondering if this has happened to anyone here, and I wanted to put it out as a warning to future brides.
My reception was at a restaurant where there were booths and tables.
The seating arrangement wasn’t even. For example there were booths that fit five people, seven, four, etc. Same with the tables. There were tables for two guests up to 15, however I memorized the floor plan the restaurant gave me right up to the last RSVP, and I had everyone placed perfectly until one of my aunts (her husband and their four kids and two grandchildren) decided they didn’t like where I put them so they switched the booth name they were assigned to and put themselves at a table. They then took that table name and put it in the booth where they were supposed to sit.
This resulted in my matron of honor’s family (who are good freinds on my husbands side) to sit with my blind cousin whom my mom specifically told me to sit with my aunt so she could help him out.
Two and a half weeks later this is still bugging me and I’m going to see these same relatives (including my sweet blind cousin) on Thanksgiving and my husband is still pissed too.
I apoligized to my MOH and her family at the reception but they told me to relax and not worry about it and that they were having a good time. I hope they weren’t lying on my behalf. They spent most of the night at the bar anyway.
Thanks ladies. I needed to vent. Thanks for reading.
Post # 3
Eeep! I’d be kinda ticked about that!!
Congrats on your wedding!
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I’d be annoyed too! But, at least it didn’t cause too many problems! Congratulations on the wedding!!
Post # 5
I’m sure your MOH was happy to sit with your sweet cousin! My MOH had the task of entertaining quite a few of my relatives, and I know she was happy to do it– it’s fun to meet new people.
Post # 6
That would get me too. I kind of thought you were going to say that a couple of people swapped. (ike a reception hall with all tables of 8 etc. And a couple of people just thought missed on the match up a bit.) But to leave the poor blind cousin out, and take what you considering to be an honor table (of sorts)? that was too much.
Seeing that it was a restaurant, and perhaps not the traditional wedding venue, maybe they didn’t realize they were taking the table of someone important? Did they know they were getting the blind cousin too? I’m not saying what they did was OK. But if people don’t realize what they did was that bad, perhaps it’s easier to forgive them and move on.
Of course, I’m pretty bad. So I’d probably find a way to dig at them over turkey dinner. “Hey (blind cousin) how did you like hanging with MOH’s family? She’s great huh? Gee, that’s strange. I had you sitting with….aunt and family? I wonder what happened. Could you please pass the sweet potatoes, aunt?” But then again, I don’t always recommend what I would do….
Post # 7
That is so wrong!! I’d be mad if people switched table names and numbers, thats not right! They should left it alone and sucked it up. It’s crazy that people do things like that after you worked so hard on making it! Sorry that happened, but at least your MOH’s family didn’t mind and I’m sure they were being truthful!
Post # 8
… that’s just rude. I’d be passive aggressive about it, but it’s probably not a course of action I’d actually recommend. I WOULD tell them that you did that for a reason so they know what jerks they look like. Maybe it’ll keep them from doing it at another wedding.
Post # 9
And thereby disrespect all the time, effort, and thought that has gone into the seating chart? Man, that’s rude.
Post # 10
Although we didn’t have guests switch the table names/numbers; we had several that completely disregarded their assigned table & sat wherever they would like, and one guest moved their own place setting to squeeze themselves into another table. I find it so humorous how people just say “nah, I’m doing this.” 🙂
Post # 11
Thats annoying, I’d be passive agressive about it too, but I’d try to make sure that your blind cousin doesn’t feel left out or awkward in any way. Maybe at Thanksgiving dinner ask your aunt if she is happy where she is sitting or if she’d like to switch with someone, ask her several times and then ask again if she’s sure. Then make a comment about how important it is that SHE be happy where she is sitting. Do all of this with a smile on your face so you come off as poking fun at her instead of looking like a control freak.
We found this out from a guy who works at the place where our day after brunch was held: My FI’s great aunt was one of the first to arrive at the day-after brunch. She is the matriarch of the family in every possible way. She wasn’t happy with how some of the tables were arranged so she rearranged them! It didn’t cause any problems or anything but still, you don’t go into a restaurant and rearrange tables!!
Post # 12
WHY do guests think this is ok to behave like this???!!! I was a guest at a wedding where I was one of the people who got shafted by another guests’ thoughtless place-changing. The bride had seated several very small children with their parents. The parents decided they didn’t want to sit with their little kids so they cleared out another table for their 6 kids – except for the two remaining place cards which were for me and my husband. We ended up sitting at a table with 6 toddlers. I was so livid I was shaking because I thought the bride had arranged the seating this way. I didn’t find out until later that it was the kid’s parents. They totally ruined the night for us and almost made me hate the bride!
Post # 13
OMG snmcdowell – That’s horrible!! I can’t believe they would switch things around like that knowing full well that they were leaving two adults at a table with 6 kids! I hope the bride laid into them for it!
Post # 14
Wow, snmcdowell–the parents don’t really care about their kids to they? I would assume that you were strangers to them. Well, at least you know that the parents (who you would have been sitting with) weren’t pleasant people any way. I feel sorry for the kids–they should have just been left at home of their parents didn’t want to deal with them.
Post # 15
I totally know how you feel. I found out after the fact that my FIL tried to switch some people around, he actually told me this. I was like are you freaking kidding me. But it’s over and some things you just gotta let go.
Post # 16
oh my gosh. I would be totally annoyed with this also!