Post # 1
FI and I are Jewish and Catholic and were unable to find a priest and rabbi to marry us at an affordable price (it would have cost over $1000). So we are planning to either ask a friend to get ordained and perform the ceremony or hire a non-denominational “minister”. So either way it will have to be a civil ceremony.
My question is, is it appropriate to include Jewish traditions (ketubah, chuppah, breaking the glass, the unveiling) and/or Christian traditions (reading from the Bible, a unity candle) in such a ceremony? FI feels like it would be almost fake to include any of this as neither a priest or a rabbi is officiating.
Post # 3
We’re planning on doing the same thing. Neither of us is very religious but we plan to include elements of both Jewish and Christian ceremonies. We’re doing them mostly as traditions of the cultures we come from (if that makes sense) so it doesn’t bother me that there’s clergy/rabbi present. I think as long as all the traditions are well explained so that nobody is confused about what is going on it works. If you google interfaith ceremony script you can get lots of ideas on how to incorporate both religions.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I definitely think it’s okay. We’re going to have a family friend perform the ceremony, and we’re having a ketubah and a chuppah and breaking the glass (we aren’t doing the unveiling, but that’s a personal preference), we’re doing the traditional Catholic wedding vows, and we’re considering a bible reading. You can do whatever you and your officiant are comfortable with… I wouldn’t suggest having someone who doesn’t speak Hebrew do the Seven Blessings in Hebrew 😉 but other than that I think you can do pretty much anything!