Post # 1
I’ve been engaged for only a few months, and I have more than a year to go. But I’m already being asked when I will move and what I will do for work by my current coworkers! It’s such an awkward question. It makes me feel like they are asking me when I’m going to leave the company, and I feel like I have to defend myself.
I also had a job offer before Christmas that mysteriously vanished a few weeks later, after I got engaged. It was more annoying than disappointing that the company that approached me for a job decided to go in a different direction after I got engaged, but I get the feeling that my upcoming relocation might have something to do with it. The thing is, I don’t even know when I’ll be moving to live with my FH!
Anyone else get the feeling that your engagement and future move is affecting your job/career?
Post # 3
That seems wrong to me that you lost the job because you got engaged. Did the company know about your engagement and that you might be moving? In the future, that might be something that you don’t want to bring up if you have a job interview since it isn’t their business if you are staying for a year or 20 years. We ended up having to move a month after the wedding. Thankfully, I was able to keep it a secret from my bosses until it was closer to the time that I was leaving. Unfortunately, now that I have moved I have no career because I can’t find an open position anywhere.
Post # 4
Wow, that really stinks that you lost the job offer because of that… it’s not really any of their business, but I’m sure this happens all the time.
I’m worried about this because my boyfriend is graduating in August, but he’ll have everything done in June. He’s been looking for jobs. He’s looking everywhere, not just Dallas, where I live. If he gets something somewhere else I’ll move to be with him (eventually anyway, maybe after a ring), and it’s hard keeping that a secret. He’s going to make significantly more money than I will so it’s just what makes sense, but it kinda sucks not being able to talk about it with coworkers because we talk about everything here. We are all friends here and they always ask what he’s doing when he graduates and what I’m doing. 😛
Post # 5
@ MissAsB: It was hard to keep my moving a secret from the prospective job, because I already work for them on the weekends. I’ve had to take a few weekends off to go visit FI. They also know that he can’t really move bc he’s in the military. It just stinks bc it’s assumed that I’ll move, you know? Bc if I had my choice, I wouldn’t. And to be honest, there’s no telling when I’ll be able to relocate. If I had known we would be getting engaged when I probably would have kept my mouth shut when I took that job.
@ kericita: I know how that feels. I tried to keep quiet about the details of our wedding from my friends, and it was sooo hard! Good luck with everything!