I was watching this video and what really struck me was that this guy came up with the proposal idea when he was12. Just like we dream of our wedding day when we are little, guys think about the proposal.
He wanted her to have a great story and to fulfil the idea he had so young.
Even after he finds a ring he thinks you’ll like, he still has to come up with a proposal idea that he is happy with and then organise it! How easy do you think it is to find a cart, horse and suit of armour? 😛
So whilst patiently waiting, remember that it’s a big deal for him too.
@Everdeen: I just started to realize that … I am giving up on trying to push it to be sooner. He says he has something planned in his head it is just the ring h has to purchase… So when that time comes I am sure it will be a great surprise, until then I just have to trust that he has it taken care of.
@Everdeen: On our 4th date DH and I went to NYC. We got off of the train at Grand Central Station. We were walking through the main concourse giggling like you do when you first start dating and he said, “I’m going to marry you one day Ms.MyMaidenName” I laughed and remember thinking he was crazy. He then said once he decided to marry me, he knew he would ask me in that same place. He had planned NYC for V-day and I made other plans, which postponed my proposal, but only by one week, when he finally convinced me to go to the city in the freezing cold. Men really do think these things out.
@MsMamaBear: I had that thought as well, but I think that if the proposal he thought of when he was 12 didn’t fit his girlfriend, then he wouldn’t have proposed that way. If there was some element of your wedding which you thought of when young you would want to use it for the wedding, but if it didn’t fit with your FI then you wouldn’t.
Exactly. Just because they don’t express their feelings about anything, doesn’t mean they don’t think about it. J had it all figured out in his awesome head of his. He talked about it with his family. His best friend. I think I was the only person who was left in the dark (duh!).
Our SOs want things to be perfect as much as we want them to be. It’s part of being in love.
Hmmm…I want to believe that my man is taking his time because the proposal is just THAT important to him. In my case, I think he’s just kind of lazy. LOL. Oh well, he has until September. That’s what was agreed upon and that is what I’m going with. I’d love if he would surprise me with an earlier proposal but I’m not going to hold my breath.
I’m starting to realize more and appreciate that the proposal is very important to the guy as well. I never really thought of it until seeing these stories on WeddingBee.
Yesterday, a coworker of mine called one of her clients and she said usually this guy is very upbeat and happy, but for some reason he seemed down so she asked what was wrong and he told her he had planned on proposing to his gf, but her mother found out and told her. I guess the mother was overly excited for her daughter and couldn’t contain it and told her and I guess the daughter told him she knew (I don’t know why she would do that!) – but he was very upset about and said he didn’t know what to do anymore and if he should still go through with the proposal as planned or wait a while longer to propose. But he was very disappointed that she had found out – he really wanted to surprise her.
When she told me the story it put into perspective of what guys feel during this time. As much as our waiting time is filled with anxiety – guys go through the same thing when trying to make the proposal perfect.