Post # 1
Tonight I read a quote in a Glamour article. It is possibly the best marriage advice I’ve heard yet.
“True love is a gift. But expecting marriage to be perfect, that’s just a Wonder Woman myth”
Seriously, next time you and your SO are in an argument remember this. You love each other and that’s what’s important. Whatever you’re fighting about probably isn’t as important as your feelings for each other.
Post # 4
I think people often forget that relationships take work. They are not always fun and you don’t always like each other…but you always love each other so you work through it. It’s not easy, but it is worthwhile.
Post # 5
@krex: That reminds me of the scene in The Breakup when Jen says to Vince, “I don’t want you to do the dishes, I want you to WANT to do the dishes.” and he replies “Who the hell WANTS to do dishes?”
Post # 6
Also marriage doesn’t make things better, if they are not right before the wedding, it is not magically going to get better afterward.
Post # 7
Agreed. A marriage contains two people – neither of whom are perfect.
@MrsPanda99: So true! The other day, my SO and I had a disagreement, and as it drew to an end, he said, “You still like me right?” My response: “No. Right at this moment, I don’t like you very much… but I still love you.”
Post # 10
this is so true.
my dh and i so rarely fight or even argue. we are, however, building a new house. of course this is even harder than the last time because it’s in another country, the building codes are nearly non-existent plus there’s the language barrier. stressful!!!
we had a few words with each other on the build site yesterday. the funny thing is that we are usually agreeing on the issue but just verballizing the outcome differently.
as we were driving away, my dh grabs my hand and says, “you do know that when we argue, i don’t love you any less”.
Post # 11
@RECrerar: 100% correct!
My neighbor told me that marriage is a balancing act – and its not always 50/50. Sometimes you give 100% and your husband gives 0% – and visca versa.
The other quote I really like is from Tyler Perry’s “Why Did I Get Married?” movie. The 80/20 rule. It goes something like this – when you are married to the right person you are happy 80% of the time – sometimes that 20% looks really tempting, but in the end you will only be 20% happy with someone else.