Post # 1
My dad died when I was very small and my mum when I was still a teenager.
While I have a wonderful SDad
I do want to do/have something for my parents when I get married but I just don’t know what.
I’m not the ‘sappy’ sort and don’t want something big or overly sentimental but I do want something and I can’t think of anything
Post # 3
Most do a rememberance table, with candles and a heartfelt note.
I will be saving a seat for my daughter & grandparents who are no longer here. I’ll put either a frame with some wording or their pictures, as well as a rose from my bouquet on each seat.
Post # 4
We said a prayer for those who had passed during the ceremony, and specifically named DH’s Dad and my Grandma, who was like a mom to me.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
@mallo: i had pictures of my grandparents that had passed away hanging on my bouquet. its something that can be kept quite private and subtle if you didnt want to make a big thing of it.x.
Post # 6
I’m going to wear a necklace that belonged to my mum. It’s not very fancy and it isn’t worth anything money-wise, just an ordinary flower on a chain, but it was her favourite
Post # 7
thanks, they are both a bit more my style
@littlemisst08: Not allowed prayers, thanks though
@jenilynevette: thanks, way to obvious for me though
Post # 8
My fiancee’s mother died when he was young, and he will have a rose that we will have a family member set on a seat in memory of her.
Post # 9
This might sound terrible to some, but it was exactly as my cousin wanted it. Her parents were killed when she was about 7. They did not mention them specifically in the speeches ect, as she and her husband didn’t want people to focus on the tragedy of losing her parents or the crappy stuff that happened afterwards (family drama). Also she felt that since it happened so long ago it didn’t need to be brought up – everyone knew what had happened and that they’ve remained in the forefront of her mind everyday. So, as a personal gesture, that only a few of us knew was specifically for her parents, she wore a black sash on her dress. I’m sure some people thought it was a fashion statement, or even didn’t like it, but for her it was a symbol of her thoughts of her parents on this day. She also had several photographs taken with a photo of them on their wedding day, and the hankerchief that her mother carried on her wedding day, so things she has to look back on as remembering them on her wedding day.
Post # 10
We had a unity candle set up but it wasn’t used that way. My mom and his grandma lit the tapers and we had it as a memorial candle. Our pastor said something about us lighting the candle in memory of our loved ones who weren’t there that day (his mom, especially). We did that at the very beginning of our ceremony, left it lit the duration of the day, and that was that. Nothing at the reception, just during the ceremony
Post # 11
@mallo: My dad died when I was 9 and my mom never rematried so I had her walk me down the aisle, but I wanted something small to acknowledge my dad. I had a two sided locket hanging from my bouquet. One side had a picture of him and I and the other side said “Always walking beside you” It was nice for me to have, but not in your face to anyone else.
Post # 12
@mallo: My grandfather was the only “dad” I knew. When he died, I had just starting seeing my DH so at my wedding, on the bridal bouquet I had a pendant of a blue heron, my grandfather’s favorite animal. He would photograph them constantly
Post # 13
I’m doing a couple things to remember my mom (who was my best friend in the whole world and passed this July), and also my late grandmother and uncle:
- I’m going to put three small charms on my bouquet, similar to @weird_bunny:
- I’m also thinking about having a rememberance table, but I might just write my note at the bar (see bullet below).
- I’m offering a signature drink named after my mom. It is a Venetian drink made with Italian liqueur, prosecco, and a splash of club soda that we fell in love with during the best evening we’ve ever spent together in Venice. That trip was her gift to me for graduating high school. That trip changed my life.
- While also on that trip, we spent a week in Greece and I was forever changed/in awe. I have based my wedding colors on the colors of Greece (all pure white with splashes of royal blue and gold).
- I’m also going to mention her in my speech, thanking everyone for coming. Not sure if I can mention her in my vows… I might lose it. (I also couldn’t bear the thought of doing empty chairs in the front row, especially because I would have three).
(I haven’t read all the PPs yet, so apologies if there are any major duplicate ideas that you’ve already nixed!!)
ETA: I will also be wearing her pearl jewelry (definitely her ring, and maybe her earrings, necklace, and/or bracelet).
Post # 14
both DH’s father and my father passed away. we mentioned them in our programs.
since we are jewish, we also lit a rememberance candle and said a prayer.
Post # 15
@mallo: I am doing the same thing with the charm for my bouquet for my dad who passed away 3.5 years ago. I found the photos and the empty chairs are just too in your face about the person not being there. I know that person is missing, and so does pretty mcuh everyone else at my wedding. No need to make it sadder than it needs to be. I am having my brother wak me down the aisle and to my surprise he was asking me if it would be okay if he wore one of my dad’s dress shirts.
Post # 16
@mallo: I am so sorry for the loss of your parents. My coworder lost both of his a year apart when he was 19. It still affects him to this day and he’s 47 and he never got any counseling for it. I think it could have helped in a tiny way.