Post # 1
My daughter and only child died 2001 and my niece and godchild died 2003. I want my MOH to carry two medium-sized framed pics of the girls and place them at the ceremony site next to the bridal party. I want their presence near me as they have been a cenral part of my life. My FMIL thinks this is bizarre and doesn’t understand why I need to do this. It’s bad enough that others have seemingly forgotten they ever existed, I want them remembered on my wedding day! Thoughts?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
You should do it! For those who don’t understand, they need to take a step back and remember this is YOUR day and you have the right to honor those you love.
Post # 4
I think you should do it. Im doing something similar. I really havent ask anyone if its okay. and not planning on doing. Its what I want so dont really care what others think
Post # 5
My fiance and I are planning on doing this. =) We’re placing framed pictures and little name tags on the chairs at the ceremony where my grandpa (for example) would sit. Maybe some flowers. We’re also planning on mentioning them in the program (ex. "wish you were here") and in the ceremony, during the greeting of the guests.
My mom and dad went to a wedding over the summer where the bride had a small "shrine" table dedicated to her mother, who had passed away when she was young. There was a picture, dried rose petals, and a little note of explanation. When my parents were talking about the wedding afterwards and mentioned it, I thought it sounded LOVELY.
Post # 6
I think it’s really sweet. The only thing I can think of you might be able to compromise on is, already have the pics set up by the bridal party instead of them carrying the pictures in? But if that’s sometning you have your heart set on, by all means go ahead!
Post # 7
If you want the pictures there then they should be there!
If it wouldn’t upset my Mom I’d have a picture of my Dad at his "seat" at the ceremony. We’re doing memorial candles at the reception but I’m hanging ornament frames with a picture our departed loved ones on the candle (in the frame) with ribbon so our guests can see who the candles represent. (does the candle thing make sense? If not I’ll take a picture to post.)
Post # 8
Do it. I’ts your wedding. My Fi thinks it’s unecessary that I am mentioning my brother and ALL my grandparents (none are coming! 2 of them have passed, 2 are in care homes and incapable of travel) but he gets that it’s important that *I* recognize their influence in my life and make that a public acknowledgement. Regarldess of if it "weirds" people out. F them! It’s important. I bet your FMIl would feel the same way if she were you. I think it’s a beautiful thing to have your niece, godchild, and daughter with you. Have you considered bouquet charms instead of picture frames? Those are really sweet also.
Post # 9
I think it is a nice sentiment as well. Another idea might be to get a small locket size photograph holders and have pictures of each of them added on your bouquet. I saw this somewhere where the bride put photos of her grandparents and "carried" them with her.
Post # 10
Hello – I’m new to the site and I would like to say I think it’s a wonderful idea.
I was thinking of doing something similar. I’m the only girl of 4 and my father passed when I was 11. I am going to put a rose in the place he would have sat next to my mom and at the reception a memorial vase (from orintal trading) with flowers and a few wallet sized picture frames of the two of us.
I think it is important to be surrounded by loved ones whether they are physically there or not.
Post # 11
I think I like the idea of bouquet charms in addition to the framed pics. Thanks!