Post # 1
I had expected to feature some small remembrance to some of those close to us who had passed on during the wedding but hadn’t really made any movement on it. Mostly family long since passed and one of my best friends from high school, who died right before my graduation.
However, my dad’s father died today, very unexpectedly. He’s the first of my grandparents to pass away and I’m a lot more devastated that I would have thought. He hadn’t gotten to meet my FI yet and although I didn’t always agree with Grandpa’s opinions, I still loved him and he was still my grandpa. It’s now really important to me to find a way to incorporate him into the wedding so that my grandmother especially knows that he is missed and remembered – they marked their 54th wedding anniversary in June.
I know it probably seems too early but I need to feel like I’m doing something right now. This is going to be the first major celebration of anything post-funeral for the family. I just wanted to ask how other folks have incorporated memories of family members – especially family members who have recently passed away – into their weddings? Or ways that you’ve seen it done that have touched you?
Thank you all in advance.
Post # 3
Personally I like the idea of a family table with photos of family members wedding days and candles with the person who’s passed away’s name on it.
I’ve seen a single rose (or favourite flower) left on the chair reserved for them at the ceremony and that can be really sweet – if done in a certain way, IMO. I think drawing attention to it too much is asking for sympathy.
What are you most comfortable doing? And what is your grandma most comfortable with? After all, it’s your wedding day and her partner. So if it’s ok with the both of you then it’ll be great for everyone else.
Post # 4
I’m having a memory table, which will feature some family photo’s, and a candle. The photos will also include our parentswedding photos as a reminder of the example they have set us, as well as remembering those who can’t be with us.
My fiance will be carrying a photo of his gran in his sporran (we’re having kilts), and I will be wearing my grandmother’s eternity ring as my something old.
Perhaps your fiance could make a short mention in his speech, to say how inspirational some of thestrong marriages you both grew up around were? Like your grandparents, maybe his or parents etc.
I’m sorry for your loss xxx
Post # 5
I am sorry for you loss, parents, grandparents and children are hard. But I am sure your grandmother would love for you to remember him in a way that is personal as well as public. Maybe you could have a family table to include everybody, but I like the idea of using may a tie pin on/in your bouquet or on your garter. Think about and maybe speak with your dad or grandmother and see what they thinl. Good Luck and God Bless you. (Even is there is no display …he will be there in your heart and in spririt)
Post # 6
I had two grandparents that have passed, therefore we had the florist put together a little vase with 2 ivory roses (the rest of the flowers were ivory too) with a little bit of greens. We put them at the front near the unity candle. In the program we put:
The floral display is placed to remember our loved ones who
are not present to celebrate our special day with us.
They are always in our hearts.
And then their names were listed below.
Post # 7
We are having a short remembrance in our ceremony. We are going to have our programs say “In Loving Memory Of… their names” then during our ceremony we will be taking a moment of silence for those who cannot be present and for those who do not have the civil right to get married.
Post # 8
We’re doing a couple of things. I’m having a locket in my bouquet with a photo of my grandmother who passed away last summer. I’m also having a single rose to remove from my bouquet (roses were her favourite) to take to the cemetary for her the day or two after the wedding.
We’re also giving a donation to the Alzheimer’s Society for my other grandmother who is still with us, but who won’t be able to attend our wedding due to the progression of her disease. Each guest will get a packet of Forget-Me-Not seeds as a part of their favour.
We have a digital picture frame, so I’m toying with the idea of filling it with photos of people who couldn’t be with us, but I’m a little concerned about it turning into a sob-fest around the photo frame. We’re an emotional family 😉
Post # 9
First of all, I’m so sorry that you lost your Grandpa. I know how difficult that can be, especially when it’s unexpected. My prayers and hugs go out to you and your family.
What we’re doing at our wedding is having chairs at the end of the family rows with picture frames tied on to the chair. Then we’re putting a single rose on the chair in honor of their memory.
I hope this helps! Hang in there…