(Closed) Remembering those you lost at your wedding…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m going to have a locket with my uncle’s picture pinned to my bouquet. Another option is to donate to a charity in your brothers honor.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Hunter's Ridge, Princeton, IL

If displaying his photo or keeping a seat empty upsets you, what if you wrote a few nice lines about him in the ceremony program? I’ve seen this at a few weddings & it can be a really touching detail.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@smith2be:  Not specifically honoring your brother on your wedding day is not pretending like he never existed.  Why not do something personal like put a small photo or momento of him in your bridal bouquet? 

Also, remember that this is your wedding and a day of happy celebration – its not a time to mourn and I mean that in a supportive, not critical way. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

A more passive, but still very symbolic way to remeber loved ones is to have memory candles.

We had these at our wedding, both my husband and I had lost our gradparents as well as uncles.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We decided to do a table! With pictures, memories, candles and flowers and things for people to see near the Entrance! We also plan on leaving cards for people to write their thoughts/wishes/memories of those as well! Its something special and discrete for us! 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I am going to include something in my wedding program (in the ‘Special Thanks’ section). Ex: In loving memory of ….

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

*hugs* I had the same worry. What we did was a photo but it was placed with the guestbook which I didn’t see until after the ceremony was over. I also had a photo pinned on my bouquet of my dad along with a in memory of in the program.

I think if we had had a moment of silence I would have lost. I was really surpised though that the “wedding high” kept me from being too sad about him not being there. Don’t underestimate that wedding happiness. You smile even when you don’t relize you are smiling.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@smith2be: Glad I could help! My heart goes out to you! This isn’t the pic from my wedding, but this is my inspiration pic. Very simple, memorable, and sweet.

We had ours on the fireplace mantel at our venue.

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Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@smith2be: I agree with what Lisa105 and Mrs Meerkat is right – you do smile on your wedding day even when you don’t realize it! I’m sorry for your loss 🙁

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve lost a grandmother and an uncle and I wanted some way of remembering them too. I wrapped a necklace that belonged to my uncle (he would wear it when he officiated wedding ceremonies) and a braclet that belong to my grandmother around my bouquet. Are you able to do something similar?

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@AnnieAAA:I absolutely adore the idea of the candles with loved ones’ names on the cards displayed!!  Any ideas (from Annie or any other bees) on how to do this for a outdoor beach ceremony? 

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