Post # 1
I was planning on one remembrance cadle in honor of deceased grandparents for both me and FI
The wedding planner insists it is proper to have two. One on the grooms side of the church and one on the brides side. Thus having a family member from each family light each one.
I have searched and found zero etiquette about this….any ideas?
How did or are you doing this?
How have you seen it done?
Post # 3
I’ve never seen any real “etiquette” about this. We are doing a Remembrance Candle – singular.
Post # 4
we are doing a yarhzite (rememberance) candle for both of our deceased fathers. we are only doing one.
Post # 5
In case this helps, here is what our candle card says:
In Loving Memory
Forever In Our Hearts
We figured that way, it was vague enough that it covered anyone. In the last few years, both sides have lost so many people. 🙁 This way, we feel like everyone is incorporated without getting too specific, or trying to do one for each person.
Post # 6
@chercee: GREAT IDEA…THANKS!!!
Post # 7
@NurseShannon: Hi, we did this.. it was for DH’s mom.. He lighted the candle when he walked the aisle.. here’s a photo of DH.. and we also included their names at the back of our wedding programme..
Post # 8
We are using one candle….
I really do not see the reason or need for several……
Post # 10
This is such a personal matter I don’t think it’s an etiquette question. It’s about what you want and feel good about. Everyone should accomodate that.
Post # 11
Ohhh, I love this idea. We were looking for a way to honour loved ones we would have loved to attend our special day, but unfortunately passed before it happened. We thought photos, but we wanted to display them tastefully and didn’t want that to look like a funeral either. I love the candle idea. I might do this instead. Thanks. 🙂