Remembrance table..

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Remembrance table: good idea or bad?
    Good idea : (12 votes)
    55 %
    Bad idea : (7 votes)
    32 %
    Do something else to remember them (explain below) : (3 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 2
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    3713 posts
    Sugar bee

    You would have to ask yourself how many people would go over to look at it? I think it’s gloomy. Slideshows seem to be popular at weddings; include them in that.

    Post # 4
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    2893 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    If it’s a small table off to the side, it’s a great idea.  If it’s a full table that is empty of seating, it is slightly macabre. 

    Post # 6
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    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I really like the idea and had planned on doing it at our upcoming wedding.  I ran the idea by my FMIL (since all the relatives that have passed are on FI’s side) 5 people in total.  I thought it would be nice to do framed pictures of each of them or candles with their pics on them, something like that. Well she didnt like the idea too much and suggested including something in our speech to make mention of remembering them and a moment of silence.  But i would find the moment of silence kind of depressing. so silence…. then what?  lets party!  just doesnt seem right.  I would go with the table idea if i were you.

    Post # 7
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    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Personally I like them. I’ve seen them set up near the guest books, or on their own at the ceremony. I’ve seen them be a simple candle that says something like “this candle burns in memory of our loved ones unable to be here.” I think it’s a nice touch, and because weddings are full of family members, can be nice to see for other people as well. Not gloomy at all! 

    Post # 8
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    535 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Omg- I had this exact same idea! The family members I’ve shared it with have loved the idea.  And even if they didn’t I think its a very touching idea and I plan to do it at my wedding too

    Post # 9
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    3713 posts
    Sugar bee

    MichiganGirl24:  The slideshow isn’t only for those who are deceased. It would include photos of FI and yourself, with your familes and friends, and include the people, who have played a roll in your lives. I’ve been to weddings where a slideshow is running, in a continuous loop, as you enter the reception, or at the guest book table, or shown during cocktail hour, or the main course, etc.

    I had to sign a guestbook once, which was on a table full of photos, of grandparents, etc., who were al deceased and it made me uncomfortable.  

    Post # 10
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    2169 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We didn’t do our specifically to recognise those who had passed but we did have a table on one side of our venue with wedding photos of our parents (all still with us), grandparents (only three of eight still with us, sadly) and then two sets of great grand parents on both sides.  It was done more as a celebration of family rather than a memorial but with my closest grandparent unable to make it and another who had passed less than a year before the wedding it was a special way to include them.

    Post # 13
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    5883 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think if it’s something you’d like to do and will be comforting to you in some way, you should do it. I’ve seen many of them over the years and have never found them to be anything other than touching displays of some important people in the lives of the bride and groom.

    I carried a single white rose down the aisle as the MOB and placed it on an empty chair next to my Dad where my Mom would have been. I’m not even sure anyone other than immediate family even noticed it, but if they did, and felt uncomfortable by the gesture, I wouldn’t have cared a bit. My daughter wanted it that way, and so did we all.

    You’ll get so many varied opinions about this sort of thing, but I still think you should follow your heart.

    Post # 15
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    5883 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I agree that they’ll be more touched by it than anything else. I hope you do it!

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