Post # 1
I was wondering, my fiance is in Iraq, it will be almost a year before he is back and we will be getting married shortly after he returns. Planning is difficult, we talk regularly but I don’t like to spend that time on wedding planning. How much can/should I do on my own and just not bother him with? Will he feel left out or probably be happy?
Post # 3
Just ask him! With most couples I think the bride does most of the planning anyway so I doubt he’ll be bothered by you taking the reins. Why not ask him if there’s anything he wants to be charge of (like organizing the bar, or the DJ) — something specific. That way he’s part of it but not bogged down with more than he can handle. And you can always send through emails w/ pics to show him what you’re thinking and just get his opinion on it (that is, if he has one — most guys just say, “Yeah, that’s great.”)
Post # 4
I would think that he wouldn’t mind too much if you did most of the planning on your own. I definitely agree with PP that most guys just say “yeah.. that sounds great” – at least that’s what my FI does, and he’s here all the time. So feel free to save all your talking time for stuff unrelated to planning, and just send him emails with pictures/contracts/etc. I know it must be tough with him gone, and major hugs to you for dealing with him being gone! My cousin is currently over in Afghanistan and I can only imagine what his girlfriend and you and other militiary SO’s are going through.
Post # 5
Thanks for the nice words… I suppose if I was honest about it… it’s not really about him… I don’t want to be dramatic about it or tempt fate… but I just don’t want our last conversation to be about the color of bridesmaid dresses. Anyway, I just want to find dresses online, especially flowergirl dresses that are quality and affordable. I don’t need to get those approved with my fiancee as long as they are nice and don’t break the budget.