Post # 1
Or maybe something in between? A quick background. Hubby and I had a decent size renewal planned for last year but had to unexpectedly postpone it. We had about 85 guests coming and a sit down dinner planned at a venue along with the DJ, photographer, small ‘wedding party’, all that jazz. Since it did not happen as planned, I was thinking that I want something different now. I still want my dress, the photographer and of course for our children to be involved, but I was thinking of doing it smaller … maybe around 35-40 people, buffet style and in a clubhouse instead of a venue.
It got me thinking, is there a ‘norm’ for renewals? What are you ladies doing? Big ceremony and reception or just something intimate? Think it’s ok to still have the dress of my dreams since I didn’t have it the first time even though the rest of the day will be low key?
Post # 3
My vow renewal will be very intimate (less than 30 guests) but fancy. We will have all the traditional wedding elements, except for a wedding party. I am wearing a wedding gown so that my mother can see me in it, since we eloped the first time.
Vow renewal etiquette discourages wedding gowns and bridal parties, along with large gatherings. However, if you did not have a wedding the first time, I think it is fine to have a wedding like vow renewal. How do you think your guests would feel about you wearing a bridal gown?
There are rules, but you can always break them. Wear what you want and have as many guests as you like.
Post # 4
My grandparents had two vow renewals. The first was for their 25th anniversary and they had a bridal party, white dress, did the church ‘wedding’, limos, formal reception the hole shebang. People still tell stories about how fun the party was. (of note, their original wedding was an elopement at city hall)
Their second vow renewal was a blessing during a normal mass followed by a fancy brunch at a restaurant. It also was lovely.
What I’m trying to illustrate is, there is no right way to do one (just like there is no one right way to do a wedding), so just do what makes you happy right now.
Post # 5
Thanks for the repliles 🙂 Wish this board had more ‘traffic’!