Post # 1
What is the norm around groomsmen/usher attire? We are having a full catholic mass, saturday at 2, receptionin a rustic elegant enviromnent in greater boston from 430-11pm.
I feel like I know everything about weddings except this and my fiancee says you just ask them to wear a black suit. I like the idea of the suit, but what if one of them shows up in a double breasted suit or one is really faded?
Do I ask them to buy?
Ugh what do most people do?
Post # 3
I think you can do whatever you’d like. We asked our groomsmen to wear a suit they owned of the black/grey color family. The last wedding my husband was in, the boys all rented the same light grey suit. For a 2 pm wedding, I would probably recommend against asking them to rent tuxes.
If you’re really anxious about the double breasted thing, ask them to wear a “single breasted black suit.” I wouldn’t worry that one will be faded.
Post # 4
One more thing: I don’t think it’s fair to dictate a suit or tux for them to buy. Good suits are way more expensive than a bridesmaid dress, and there are rental options.
Post # 5
We’re having everyone rent a tux, but our tux style is really more like a suit. It can be pretty cheap to rent a tux at the mega retailers like Men’s Warehouse and such (including shoes, tie, etc!). Plus, most of those places give you the groom’s tux free with 4/5+ rentals.
Post # 6
It’s a LOT cheaper to rent a tux at an independent rental place than it is at Mens Wearhouse– check around your area. As for waht’s appropriate, sounds like your ceremony’s going to be very formal. Tradition calls for the guys in a formal daytime wedding to wear cutaways or strollers with stipe trousers (see photo), but obviously you’re not obligated to observe tradition. But black tuxedos would be very appropriate, more so than suits. Visit the local tux shop and see what works for you. Make sure you choose a shop that carries its own inventory– very important– and doesn’t order the tuxes in from out-of-state.
Post # 7
I think we’re renting tuxes.
Post # 8
We are going through Men’s Wearhouse. We have had good luck with them for other weddings FI has been in, so we are pretty happy. Plus, with 4 rentals, FI’s will be free.
Post # 9
i feel like usually they rent, and that would seem like the best option for you if you’re worried about what they’re going to look like. we’re having them buy, but we’re doing more casual, with just tan slacks, a nice shirt, and a tie.
Post # 10
@Lindsay12.31.2010: MW went to one free with *five* paid at the beginning of the year.
Post # 11
We used MR formal and they were great.
Post # 12
We are buying FH’s suit – black and classically cut that he can wear again.
Groomsmen, we are asking to wear black dress pants, black dress shirt & black shoes and providing a red tie – no jackets.
Post # 13
We only had one male attendant, and he only owned one suit, so we told him to wear that. But you can do what you like: have them wear suits (in a specific color or in any color), or rent tuxes, or wear something else. (E.g., I’ve seen the men all in sport coats, or Hawaiian shirts, or whatever.)
Post # 14
I agree, renting from Men’s Wearhouse is pretty reasonable in terms of cost and convenience. And there are lots of tuxes that looks like a dark suit.
We got lucky…all of our groomsmen actually had their own tuxes so we just gave them the same tie to wear as part of the groomsmen gifts!
Post # 15
I think most groomsmen rent tuxes and ushers (if different from groomsmen) wear suits they own.
Post # 16
We’re having our groomsmen wear black suits that they already own or will buy. Tuxes are generally for evening and formal events, so they are not appropriate for our daytime wedding.