Post # 1
So, my fiance is German and a few of his family and friends are making the trek all the way from Germany to Canada for our wedding in May of next year. Most of my family and friends will be coming form out of province as well, so we thought that it might be a nice informal celebration after the wedding ceremony to rent a cottage and provide a casual dinner and drinks for everyone to get to know one another and not have a strict schedule. Is it insane to plan that my fiance and I (plus siblings) would organize all the food and drinks the days before, and on the day of the wedding just leave beer and wine in the fridge and food on the table while someone mans the BBQ outside? We would rent the cottage for a couple of days after as well to take care of cleanup ourselves. My mom seems to think that this is a bad idea.
Does anyone have any input or advice?
Post # 3
I think it’s a great idea and I would love to attend a wedding like this. barbecues are rarely stressful, so why would it be stressful on a wedding day? if i were you, though, i’d hire someone to manage the grill
Post # 4
@gracetravel: agree with pp – hire someone to serve and or cook on the actual day, that way you can enjoy the party. You don’t want to stress so if you want to do all the prep just try to get it done early or know who you can reliably delegate to within the friends/family ranks. To eacy their own, but I think this sounds like a wonderful event, and more my style than something more formal.
Post # 5
That’s actually what I’m doing for my wedding, which is coming up in just over three weeks! However, we have a small guest list, only 24 people. We’re having a morning ceremony and lunch reception at our venue and then we’re all going back to the cottage and my husband to be and I are going to BBQ up dinner. We plan on having everything prepped beforehand and since it’s all immediate family and close friends I’m sure people will help out as needed. We want it to be super casual and fun. It’s also my parent’s cottage so we’ve entertained there before and are familiar with the place.
If you have a lot of people coming I would definitely get some help or you could also look at outside catering.
Post # 6
@vizzlev: Thanks so much! Maybe you could let me know how it goes and what you might have done differently? Congratulations to you as well!
I spoke with my fiance and told him we should hire one or two people to help out, which I tihnk will relieve so much stress on the day like you all suggested. Does anyone have any ideas or recommendations about food/drinks/anytihng else?
Thanks a bunch again guys!
Post # 7
@gracetravel: How many people do you expect to be at the cottage at any one time? A lot of places have limits to how many people are allowed to be at the rental property at any time. If that is not an issue, the only other advice I have is that instead of doing a barbeque to have mini sandwiches catered from local shops — wayyyyy easier.
Post # 8
@peachacid: Thanks for your input! I’m only looking at properties right now that allow group functions like weddings and family reunions, so that won’t be a problem. Pre-made food is absolutely a great idea and i’ve been looking at a lot of grocery stores who offer sandwhich platters and antipasti platters for half the price of caterers. So that might be perfect! Thank you!
Post # 9
@gracetravel: For our rehearsal dinner we had two local sandwich shops “cater” it — which really means they put together sandwich trays for us. We fed 70 people and it was awesome!
Post # 10
@gracetravel: I would only do it for a smaller guest list. You could do a mix of bought and homemade dishes. Some places around her offer large platters of pulled pork or casseroles for cheap. Maybe choose either the main or side dishes to make yourself, then buy the other? You could also bake your own desserts- a lot of them can sit (covered) for two or three days, so they are easily made and stored in advance.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
We’re doing it but we’re renting a beach house big enough for our handful of guests from the UK to stay with us.