Post # 1
Has anyone here rented out a whole house / villa /chalet etc for everyone to stay in for the wedding as well as holding the reception there? We are looking because it doesn’t seem that much more money than renting a venue for the day with guests staying in hotels. Also we are both in close families and would love the opportunity for everyone to stay together for longer than just the day.
Any problems you found? We are having a small family only wedding (under 35 people) but are a bit worried about certain family members (1 aunt on my side and 1 aunt on his) being together in such close proximity. We have debated just having some of the family stay and others find hotels but this would create too much drama. Then we debated just immediate family, except I am an only child and he has a brother and sister with children so my parents would be quite isolated. Is it all too complicated? Should we just let family arrange their own hotels to avoid drama?
Post # 2
KateA17: My FSIL rented at Frank Lloyd Wright house for the weekend. It was beautiful! I want to say she had about 60 guests. Myself along with the bridal party, bride and groom and some family members all helped to setup. <br /><br />The caterer had setup the tables chairs, linens, glass and silverware the moring of the wedding. So we just had to add centerpieces and favors. Then hang cafe lights and a few other things. We then moved all the chairs from the table to setup the ceremony spot. After the ceremony all the guys helped move the chairs back to the table while the guests played lawn games and started drinking.
It was FANTASTIC! The reason why my FI and I picked our all inclusive venue.
No one else stayed at the venue but the bride and groom, there was however plenty of bedrooms for a few guests.
Also I should mention FI’s parents had been seperated about 6 months and about two months before her wedding started divorce paperwork. So there was without a doubt some tension between his parents. Even with such a small wedding they were able to be seperated enough.
Hope that helps!
Post # 3
Lalavla: That sounds amazing! And I hadn’t thought about just having us stay in the venue- then maybe some guests could stay the night of the wedding if there are extra rooms. Thanks for the info!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I was MOH for a wedding where everyone stayed in the same house. From my perspective, it was not a pleasant experience. Mr. LK and I were both members of the wedding party and were expected to be free labor. BP members ended up cleaning up after everyone (doing dishes, sweeping sand off of the floor, picking up glasswear that others would just leave sitting on side tables, etc.) because everyone has a different standard of cleanliness and there were plenty of people in the group who had rather low standards and had no problem watching everyone else do the work. We were also expected to help set-up and clean-up for the wedding. We hauled chairs, set-up lighting, assembled and hung decorations, ironed linens, and on and on. And we had to be peacekeepers between some particularly obnoxious guests (aka the groom’s Mother) and everyone else. Honestly, we paid a thousand dollars for our “share” of the house rental cost to go there and work for days. We love the bride and groom, so we bit the bullet and made it work. Our goal was to enable them to have the most amazing time possible. But we will never stay in that kind of lodging situation again.
All that said, it can work if there is a good blend of personalities, and the bride and groom pay for a daily cleaning service and pay for all of the set-up, running of the wedding, and take-down costs. Don’t expect your guests and bridal party to be free labor just because they are there. And don’t throw people into a situation wherte certain individuals will make the rest of the group miserable.
Post # 5
I looked into this for my wedding, and found that a lot of places I looked at did not allow weddings/parties, or the city/town prohibited using private homes for weddings, or the place had an exhorbitant fee on top of the rental (as as PP said, you then also have to bring in *everything* al a carte). So what I ended up doing was renting a villa that slept 12 for the wedding party to stay in (four nights including the wedding night, people could come when they wanted, they didn’t have to be there the whole four nights), and had the ceremony/reception at a venue nearby. So my advice is read the rental agreements CAREFULLY and make sure that the owners and local ordinances allow what you want to do before you sign up. I will also add it was a ton of work for me and DH – I prepared tons of food up front, also shopping/stocking fridge/bar, we were constantly making coffee for people, eggs, cooking/serving/washing dishes. If you don’t do it, your guests will have to, and that’s not nice 🙂 – Or you could have a housekeeping service come daily.
Post # 6
We have booked this bungalow. It has some unique advantages:
1. It is huge – Bombay / Mumbai has very few large hosues
2. it is independent and is situated in Collector Colony, Chembur. The plot owners in this locality have a self governance Panchayat Raj and hence there are no issues from a society (Societies are prevalent in Mumbai and residents have to adhere to a lot of norms which include prohibition of short stays by muliple people)
Thought the rates have moved to Rs. 45000 per day from 1st April, we think it is worth it economcially too. In addition, it is great for relatives to be staying in one place rather in different rooms across different locations.