Post # 1
I asked an old friend of mine to be MOH right after our engagement. She agreed and was very excited about the whole situation although she has been living abroad for almost two years now. About a week later I received an email from her stating she couldn’t be the MOH because she won’t be here to help throughout the process and doesn’t know my fiance, and it all makes her uncomfortable. I told her it was fine, as I know she’s got plenty of things going on in her life.
This left our wedding party a little lopsided, with 4 bm and 5 gm. I really don’t have any girlfriends who I felt could take the MOH place. However, our bestman, my fiance’s brother, has a wonderful gf who is actually one our bm. She has been more than helpful and is someone that we both can trust and rely on. She has taken up things which are usually MOH duties without hesistation and without me having to ask. I’m thinking about asking her to be MOH…but I’ve only known her for a little over six months…my fiance has known her since she and his brother have dated, for over a year and a half. Would it be weird to ask her to fill in the position? Especially since I’ve known her for a short time?
Post # 3
I don’t think it’d be weird….but I think i’d just stick to having all bridesmaids. Sure, she’s great, but what if she and the best man break up? Then she’s like, this stranger, right?! I’d play it safe. You could just get her an extra little gift on the side and thank her for doing so much extra work. She sounds like a really sweet girl though
Post # 4
Do you have to have a maid of honor? I’m not having one, and it seems to be working just fine. Each of the girls has found her own MOH duty, and it’s been fun to have a posse with each being equal!
Post # 5
My first thoughts after my maid of honor declined was just like yours Doctorgirl. I don’t think I actually need to have a MOH and think that dividing the duties would work out best.
Post # 6
I think you should go for it since you’ve said she already taking up the duties.
This actually happened to me but it wasn’t my MOH it was my FI’s brother’s girlfriend who bailed out. Today I got a call from one of my friends who agreed to take her place. I’m totally excited about the change.
I hope things work out for you. Good luck with everything!
Post # 7
I think that you should stick with your 4 BM, when it comes to signing the marriage license (your witness), I’d choose the person who is the closest. Also, if you think your FI’s friends GF could be a good friend, you may want to ask her later (closer to the date) but I don’t think you need to ask her right away.