Reply card wording help!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  I would go with the first option.  It should be obvious from who is listed on the envelope who is invited (no kids).  If someone RSVPs with a kid’s name you can either call then and let them know that the invitation was just for Mr. and Mrs. Smith and you aren’t having kids at the wedding or suck it up and let the kid come.

For +1s, I would try to get the names of all the SOs if possible.  Have your FI, parents, FILs etc. help if it is someone you don’t know.  If you can’t get a name and you write “and Guest,” you are stuck with whoever they decide to bring.

Post # 5
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266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  Here’s what ours say:

The favour of a reply is requested

Before the thirtieth of July

M______________________

     ______________________

 

   ____ Accepts with pleasure

      ____ of ___ guests attending

                                          ____Regretfully declines

Ours is including kids but I would just put on the invitation “Adult-only reception to follow” and then if anyone adds their kids, you will just have to make the dreaded phone calls 🙁

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  maybe it’s something you could put on your website? or spread thru word of mouth?  I think you’ll be fine if you address the envelopes explicitly to Mr and Mrs only.   Usually the only way children are included is if you put The Smith Family on the envelope and then list kids on the reply card 🙂

 

Post # 9
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266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  I love the website convenience lol.  I have an FAQ section just for that reason 🙂

Post # 13
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266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  Haha, yeah it was actually a huge pain in the butt to find a venue….not a lot in the UP to choose from.  This place has actually only been doing weddings for about a year so they’re relatively undiscovered 🙂
But my FI is a born and bred Yooper, whereas my family moved from the Thumb area to the UP when I was in high school.  Our families are in the UP and we’re in Chicago now, so it will be a UP wedding….p.s. long distance planning SUCKS!!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@roguehnp2005:  

 

I love hearing people from Michigan talk about where they live.  It fascinates me for some reason!  

Sorry to go off-topic OP,

I think your best option is just to address the envelopes to the adults.  I think that SHOULD make it quite obvious.  I’m a little unsure about how to communicate that the wedding is adults only too though.  I really don’t feel that saying “Adults Only” is tacky, but to stress the wedding ceremony may come off as forced. Can I ask why you are choosing to do an adults only ceremony?

 

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