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Is it common where you live for a lot of people to skip the ceremony? I've never really heard of that happening... I'd be upset if a lot of my guests skipped the ceremony! No dinner for them! lol
I would be kind of puzzled if I was asked if I was attending the ceremony... thats what a wedding invitation is for- to invite people to the ceremony!!
However, if you do think a bunch of your guests may skip the big event & its costing you an additional $2 per chair- I think it might be a good idea to get a head count! :)
Good luck!
Yeah it really is common here and we are also young and alot of our friends are young so they wouldnt want to be there (which I agree is odd) But Thankyou I have been throwing this around in my head for a while and if my ceremony was able to hold 500 people I wouldnt be thinking abouth this LOL I think I am going slightly crazy with planning but there is one good thing......I have found new reasons to fall in love again and again with my *BOY* he's so patient with me and helpful <3 him
Aww thats wonderful Josephine! Wedding planning is a wild ride... There are definitely sweet moments & some not so sweet moments!
I see your wedding is in 2011... you're going to change your mind 8 million times & you'll probably drive your patient FI nuts lol!! I hope you don't take offense to that-- I'm totally speaking from MY experience! You'll get to a point where you may *gasp* even get sick of planning your wedding. By the time my FI and I marry, I'll have been planning for like 20 months. Ick. I changed my mind so many times & I've purchased things that are now useless because my "vision" has changed.
My advice: go with your first instinct & only buy things you really, really love!!
oh no my wedding is now 10-22-2010 :) we changed it because I already had most of it planned and we saved up a substantial amount of $ to get started so I've got 11 months lol....I take no offense AT ALL I am pretty easy going :)
lol okay... phewf!! Looking back, I totally wish I hadn't started planning my wedding until 6 months before. Haha & I'm 8 months out.
yeah it was my boys idea to change the date and I am glad he did I was planning and planning and he just said were gonna move it up cuz YOUR READY :) he's a good man *LOVES!!!*
I voted no just because I was raised with the idea that it is rude to skip the ceremony. Everyone I know, regardless of region, etc, agrees and has mentioned at one point or another that they would never dream of skipping anyone's ceremony and heading straight to the reception.
If you think people might skip the ceremony and it would change your planning, I think you should add it to the reply card. I've never been to a wedding where people skipped the ceremony but came to the reception. But if that's common where you are, you might want to add it, just to make sure.
If you're planning on 120 guests, and the free ceremony location can only hold 80, thats 40 people who would have to skip the ceremony, or one third of your guests. Do you think that many people would skip it? Are the ceremony and reception in different locations?
I don't think it would do any harm to have two sets of replies on the response card, one for the ceremony and one for the reception. However, even if I was planning to skip the ceremony and attend the reception, I'd probably check the box to say I would be attending both, since its not really proper (in my area) to skip the ceremony on purpose. If you think your friends would admit to it, then go for it.
I think it might be a little strange to ask for RSVPs for the ceremony.
If it were me I would just plan on the 120 guests and get the bigger ceremony venue, but I don't think you can plan on 40 people not attending your ceremony! That's a big percentage of your total invited!
If it's a phenomenon specific to your area, maybe you should ask those living in your area. For me, people attend a wedding for the ceremony. Some people even skip reception but not ceremony....but that's just from my perspective.
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Can I do a yes or no attendance for the ceremony on the reply card with how many for dinner and what their eating?
The reason for this is because the ceremony site has 2 different spots, one holds 80 people and doesnt cost anything more, and the other area on the site holds 120 but the chairs are 2 dollars a piece. We are right in around 120 and from my experience quite a few people dont even attend the ceremony. I really dont want to spend 250$ and then be able to hold all the people in the 80 person space and there goes 250$$$$$ out the door.
So can I prepare my self and figure out whos coming and whos not?