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I went dress shopping all by myself the first time. I went into three bridal shops and it was actually very stress-free. I didn't have to worry about fighting against others' opinions or defending my taste etc. I think it is easier for the bridal consultant too. It is a much more smooth process that way. You can really be honest with what you like and you don't like without having to worry about being nice and thoughtful of what others will like on you.
And I completely agree with you that once you make your decision all by yourself, nobody can say anything against it, at least not openly. Otherwise, all the things that they mention during the whole decision-making process get stuck in your mind someway and it is a little uncomfortable to deal with that.
oh by the way, I really like your dress. That is Priscilla of Boston right? Mine is too:)
Thanks so2203. Yup it's Priscilla of Boston. Can you post a pic of yours? I'd love to see and I'm sure all the lurkers would too! I totally was one before :-P
I bought mine off of WB, I just knew it was the "one." I think I'll enjoy dress shopping with my bridesmaids more- I don't like the scrutiny or attention if I went dress shopping with a group of girls.
I wish I could go dress shopping by myself! But I'm pretty sure my mom would kill me! That being said, I love love love your dress! It's absolutely beautiful.
I love both of your dresses, s02203 and ccflowers! WOW.
I wish I would have gone shopping myself the first time, I think. I wanted input, but it was hard to get a feel for my style after hearing everyone else's opinions about the dresses.
I loved shopping alone. It made me listen to my own voice instead of the ones around me, and I'm convinced I never would have found a dress I truly loved with a bunch of people around.
I am with you - I went with friends the first couple times and the rest of my appointments were just me by myself. I realized the hard way that it's very difficult to decide if you like a dress when there are people with you. I didn't even have opinionated people with me at first - they were the opposite - no reaction whatsoever which may have been worse. By myself, I was able to really think about and decide what I liked about each dress and narrow them down quicker. I did end up having that 'this is the one' moment and I honestly don't know if that would have happend had I been surrounded by other opinions.
I went by myself a couple times, but honestly I preferred going with my mom and sisters. I can see how it would be better alone if the people you go with are really opinionated. My mom and sisters gave me their input and were honest, but also they werent pushy( and of course my mom said I looked beautiful in everything lol). When I was alone it wasnt as fun and I wanted to ask for some honest opinions. I was worried the consultants just wanted me to pick the most expensive dress. By the way your dress is really pretty!
I went shopping the first time alone and I loved it. I prefer to shop alone, tend to know what does and does not work for me, and didn't want any drama. My mom was going to be in town a week later and suffers with fatigue from her MS, so I wanted to make it easier on her. I found the one while on my own, but had the shop pull 3 other dresses for good measure. I told her I knew what I wanted but she had to figure it out, but I wouldn't change my pic. Suprisingly, she not only picked the right dress, but had some of the same faults with others I tried on.
I went dress shopping alone for the majority of my visits... (That's what happens when you try on 100 dresses!) I actually preferred it for the most part until I found a dress that I was really interested in. It just so happened that the day I tried on my dress, I went with my cousin in law, but I would have purchased my dress even if there was nobody there!
It was good but, when I was torn I could really have used a couple of second opinions.
I actually was glad I did. I went to bridal gown looking sessions twice with my MOH and other friend and I always felt like i wanted them to love it too. so i would turn down dresses they didnt like even though i did. im easily pressured what can i say. like i said in my old posts when i went to pick up the dress i did buy I just didnt feel right. I asked to try on more dresses just to make sure and you know what? I found a dress I love soooo much more. my friends after seeing still think that the other one was better but I DONT! Im so glad they werent there to put that on me! haha
I am so glad there are people who feel the same way! I've be searching for "The Dress" for about a month now and I still cannot make up my mind. The first few times I went with my friends because I need their approval and 2nd opinion. I put on a dress I am not 100% sure about but they ALL LOVED, and now I found myself even more confused..
I finally decided to go on dress shopping by myself this weeekend! I think I will bring my friends back once I've decided on the dress..
@ccflowers and so2203....LOVE your dresses!
I did the majority of dress shopping by myself, including purchasing my second dress without anyone having seen it until my second fitting when I invited a couple of friends to come along. Honestly, I liked having the flexibility to take as much time as I wanted, didn't feel like I was holding up my friends by trying on a billion dresses, etc... Plus I know my style the best! :-)
I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way!
Dabe821 - you totally should go alone at least once!
Thanks for all the dress compliments guys! The bees are so awesome :-)
I went shopping with my FI at first. (We're not really traditionnal!!) I tought I found the one and called my mom and dad to come to the store. When my mom walked in she saw that dress that I saw but didn't try on. It was perfect!!! No alterations needed. My mom and my dad were crying. My fiance hasn't seen it though. I was happy I went shopping with him to find out what he liked on me.
Me, too! I actually went to like, 5 stores alone. i wanted to narrow it down, then bring mom back to final pickings, but then i landed an unpassable sale.
it was not stressful at all. the salesladies seemed MORE helpful. Maybe they saw me alone and thought "yay no parents to harass me!" and thought i'd be an easy customer to deal with. THey were all incredibly nice, tying me up and bringing me dresses and not treating me weird b/c i didn't have somebody with me. Plus, this way I knew what I LIKED the most. I didn't want to be like a girl i know who's mom talked her into a dress, then she ended up buying TWO MORE wedding dresses (yes ladies, 3 total) to get what she wanted in the end. My mom can be influential and i wanted the first sayings, then let her help me narrow it down.
But man, it was great dress shopping by msyelf. although i'm sure it woulda been fun going with the girls; it was just one of those thigs--sometimes i did it on my lunch break, etc. i had weekends plans usually so i did stuff like this on my way home from work, too!
My entire family and all of my bridesmaids live in another state, so I've done pretty much everything solo. I thought I found *the* dress, located a place in my hometown that carried it and made an appt for my mom & I to go while I was home over Thanksgiving. My mom hated the dress, fell asleep at the store and I realized I was better off alone.
Now it's 6 months before the wedding, I'm second guessing everything I thought I wanted and am not sure I'll be able to order and receive something in time.
I am SO going to try the shopping alone thing. I have been geting way too many opinions and it's been confusing and stressing me out for no reason!
I did all the first visits by myself. I had a vision of exactly what I liked and went to 12 different stores, drove all around a 100 mile radius, so it was more like a focused mission than a fun dress-up session. Don't think any of my friends would've had the time or patience for that. I took my MOH for the final selection because I need a second opinion when making such a big purchase. No offense to her though, but I wish it was my mom. She lives in a different continent so she couldn't be here with me and I missed her badly. Without her opinion which I trust more than anyone else's, I still feel anxiety over my decision and can't be sure if it was the right one.
Yes. I was alone the first time I went - my mom and one sister were overseas, and the other sister was asleep. She was a bit hurt I didn't wake her up when I left, but I prefer shopping alone as a rule.
I know I won't get that luxury in the future, now that everyone is back, because all 4 of us (mom and 3 sisters) have pretty different tastes. One says too plain. The other says too poofy. One doesn't like accentuated hips, etc, etc, etc.
Also, add my brothers' new wife, and my two future SIL's. That's six people I gotta factor in.
That said...I do see the merit in having others there. I was in love with ML's Rhianna when I left the store, but when I shared the pics the consensus was "um, no", and when I took another look I agreed. Guess you do need someone other than the salesladies ooh-ing and aah-ing.
I'm planning on going alone for the first round and then bringing my "style team" with me for the second round. I'm planning on doing some serious running around to a ton of shops and I don't want to subject the crew to that. I figure if I narrow it down to a few favorites (be that fav dresses or fav shops) we'll have a much more enjoyable time. I'm all about avoiding stress!
I went alone for my ceremony dress. It wasnt planned but I stumbled across "the one" and had to try it on. I loved the attention from the sales people and didnt have to worry about rushing because so-and-so has to be home by 2pm, ya know? It was stress free, fun, and sooo exciting. Id recommend it for sure! However, when I go to get my reception dress, Mr. W will be with me- he wants me to wear the big white dress. Thats not my style, so I want his opinion when I get it, plus, my ceremony dress is untraditional so Ill give in and let him pick my reception dress!
The first two places I visited with my mom, only. Third place was with mom and BMs, but it wasn't a serious visit (Kleinfeld, just for fun). Fourth time was a sample sale at Bergdorf, which turned out to be tricky because there was a gorgeous Ines Di Santo dress that my BMs and I loved (mom was not there), it was like 80% off retail but it was in very bad shape and would need a LOT of work. I made plans to go back with my mom the next day, asked them to hold the dress, but later that night changed my mind about it. It was just too risky. Though even with alterations it was still an incredible deal -- I hope some lucky bride snatched it up!
The following day I went alone to a different salon, on my lunch break, and had a great time! My consultant was incredible, and I felt like I finally found a professional who was paying attention to my body and details of the dress, like how slightly different skirt fullnesses impact perceived waist size, how some are dropped too low and make me look short, etc. We set aside a few dresses, and later in the week I went back with mom and BMs. Every dress I had set aside, my BMs loved. My mom loved most of them, too. No help, haha! I saved my fav for last and it turned out to be the one! The most incredible thing is that it is much different than anything I or my mom thought I would end up with, and I'm still in a bit of shock!
I went alone the first 3 times I went dress shopping. I didn't mind it; I don't shop for clothes with other people and, more importantly, my mom lives several states away. When I did finally take my mom to show her the dress I eventually got, it wasn't for an opinion - I knew it was the one I loved - it was just for some validation.
I watch Say Yes to the Dress every Friday night because I'm lame and I'm always amazed at the gaggle of people women bring. They all have such different opinions, I would hate shopping in that kind of environment!
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(Sorry still new here...I posted this in "Beehive" a few minutes ago...thought it would be more appropriate in "Dress")
I did and let me tell you how much more relaxing it was for me. I had been shopping a couple of times with my MOH and matron of honor, and once even, my FMIL. I love them all dearly, but we all have different stlyes. Matron of honor likes lace and slimmer fitting gowns, MOH likes sexy plunging necklines, and FMIL likes sweet and elegant. I like classic and simple...I love Audrey Hepburn and my favorite store is Ann Taylor Loft. So that's my style.
Each time I went, they all thought I had found the one. They loved some dress or other on me, but I didn't feel it. Dress shopping didn't seem like fun anymore with all the opinions, so I decided to go it alone and it was the best decision ever! I had a lot more fun. I know what I like and I didn't feel I needed the approval of anyone...it's my dress and if they don't like it...tough! Also, if they know it's a done deal, people are more inclined to like it because they have no say in it anymore :-) I ended up buying this one online and it's absolutely perfect.
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