Post # 1
Hi, I’m reposting this on the emotional board because I posted it under the wrong section before and don’t know how to delete it (sorry).
We’ve been together for 7.5 years and are now finishing up college. When we first started, I told him that I didn’t want him to propose because it’s embarrassing, don’t want the attention, etc, and this kind of upset him but he seemed to accept it. I know he wouldn’t propose until he had a stable fulltime time, but I now wouldn’t mind if he proposed. How should I tell him this? I have one stipulation: don’t do it in front of my family. I just feel awkward bringing it up because I don’t want him to think I want him to do it now, which would make no sense to do. How do I go about this, ladies? Or gents.
Post # 3
So just tell him what you told us.
Post # 4
@writershabitarium: Don’t you want to be surprised? I personally feel a man asking the woman he loves to be his wife is a romantic, once in a lifetime event! I’m just old fashioned. I am a private girl also. So I get where you’re coming from. I have a feeling he already knows what you would prefer concerning the proposal. Don’t worry your pretty self. Just start dropping hints, he’ll likely take your lead.
Post # 5
@Birdi: Thanks. Yeah, I don’t mind it to be in a public place but not in front of family members lol. I was dropping hints about the museum, asking him what my favorite place in the world was until he got it that the Met Museum of Art is my favorite. I’m trying to balance between mild micromanaging issues and wanting to be surprised lol.
Post # 6
@writershabitarium: LOL! Too funny!! I wouldn’t worry and overthink this.. 7 1/2 years this man knows you!
Post # 7
@writershabitarium: There is no reason he needs to propose in front of family members. I wouldn’t have liked it either. Just tell him you want a private proposal.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Just tell him. “Okay, I change my mind, I want you to propose to me…. just not in front of my family.”