Okay – maybe I wasn’t clear before:
There will be seating. All together, there are seats at tables for 80 guests. There are also bar stools, and a patio with seats. However, we are having more guests than the total number of seats (I believe it’s in the low 100s). Because it is a cocktail reception venue. There are multiple stations, bars, etc with nibbles, small plates, etc.
Both of our families tend to have cocktail party events for holidays, birthdays, etc. My 98 year old grandma even told me she’s looking forward to our reception because it won’t be a three hour meal ordeal. Our families are aware of our format and are comfortable with it. Our friends are definitely excited. We are reserving a table (or again, two) for the older guests because we know that they will like a seat for the entirity of the ceremonial stuff, and while we expect our other guests to make way for the older folks, we want to be sure my aunt can sit with her gardening friend and so on. They (the older folks) have been told that there will be a reserved table so they don’t need to worry about a thing.<br /><br />In addtion, we have a DOC who will be sure to point out the table to those guests.
We are not offering/adding more seats. There are plenty of cocktail-style receptions out there that don’t have seats for every single person, and they work out fine- beautifully in fact. One of the nicest weddings I’ve been to personally was a cocktail reception. Was there a seat when we got there? No. Did we care? No. We hit the bar, grabbed some food at a high top, danced, grabbed a seat, grabbed some more food, danced, hit the bar, etc, etc, etc. The idea is that people eat, dance, and mingle in no particular order – there is not time when every person will need a place to sit at the exact same time (minus the ceremony, which is a seperate venue. AND we have a gap. So I guess know I’ll hear about how that’s so rude). When I go out to a bar I stand around for a while, dance, drink, and then take a seat later…which is 100% possible, even with our format.
<br />I thank you all for your concern over my guests, but trust me when I say that this has been hashed out and thought out thouroughly by myself, my fiance, our families, our coordinator, and our venue staff.
I am not trying to be dismissive or rude, but I did not ask for suggestions for if you liked the format of our recepition. Quite frankly, even if y’all convinced me today that this was a horrible idea there would be nothing we could do.
So, again, if anyone has some wording suggestions for a sign, that would be appreciated.