Post # 1
FI and I had originally planned on having 4-5 reserved tables. One for each of our mothers/fathers and their closest relatives, one for our closest friends, and one one for his co-workers since they don’t know our friends OR family.
When talking t my coordinator about seating as soon as I mentioned this she shot it down saying that is too many reserved, people never reserve for co workers people know how to find a place to sit among others, and having that many reserved would make the other guest feel like the “others” or something. The thing is also that 75% of our guests are FI’s family so our thinking was since all of them know each other let them choose their own seats but that t would be a beter time for our friends and co workers if they were among familiar faces. Thoughts?
Post # 3
I would just do a seating chart for everyone. ETA: You can just assign people to tables. They will have plenty of time to socialize with people not at their tables after dinner and during cocktail hour. If you assign tables you don’t have to worry about having extra seats and empty chairs when people space themselves out because they don’t want their small groups divided up.
Post # 4
We are doing all reserved tabes, since we have a lot of different groups that do not know eachother coming.
Post # 5
I agree with your coordinator – two or three tables max reserved for immediate family if you’re doing reserved tables. If you want more than that, just do a seating chart.
Post # 6
hmm, no a seating chart isn’t possible. I’m not familiar enough with the relationships of his 125 guest to seat chart them, and couldnt pull it off anyways with less than 2 weeks.
200 guests, 20 tables. 4 is too many to reserve?
Post # 7
Honestly, I would encourage you to reconsider doing a seating chart. It is a lot of work, but it makes things nicer for your guests to know exactly where they are supposed to be. Of course you don’t know all the details of your FI’s family, but he can help you choose where to seat people. Hopefully too, your guests will act like adults if they might not be seated exactly where they would want to be.
Post # 8
Why don’t you ask you FI to do the chart for his family? Your gust list is about 2xs the size of mine, but my seating chart only took like, 20 min.
Post # 9
I would do a seating chart. I did that for 120 people and it was pretty easy.
Post # 10
I don’t see a problem… it won’t be difficult to put a reserved sign tables for certain people like co-workers and friends… especially since the majority is family, they will likely want to sit with certain other family member so a seating chart will prevent that. Or do you know who wants to sit with whom?
You hired the co-ordinator, she doesn’t dictate on how many reserved tables you get.
Post # 11
I think 4 reserved tables is fine. I am the odd one who HATES seating charts- I like to pick who I am sitting with thank you very much, but at coworkers wedding I prefer to sit with other coworkers and so on and so forth. I think it is totally fine to just do the four reserved and let everyone else figure it out for themselves.
Post # 12
I know you don’t want to do it, but I would do a seating chart. I’ve been at only one wedding where there wasn’t one – a very casual and small affair. Otherwise you’ll have really odd size tables. Delegate it – FI or his parents can do his guests. Or think of it this way, it’ll help you learn the family relationships for FI’s side, which is good.
But, if you insist on doing just a few reserved tables, I would not do one for coworkers. It’ll make others feel bad (and they’ll likely sit together anyways without instructions).
Post # 13
There’s no right or wrong here. It’s your wedding and if you want 4 reserved tables, which I don’t think is a lot at all, then have them. Who cares what your coordinator thinks. Do what you want.