Post # 1
Thank you all so much for your feedback! My mind was already made up before I posted this. There is nothing that can stop me from getting married to him. I know that we may be too young, but I am ready to be his wife, to do married couple things. We have gone on many trips, have had arguements and solved them, and have had many heartfelt conersations. We have even lived together for almost 2 years. After all of this time together he still makes my heart melt and puts a gigantic smile on my face. I wrote this post so that I could learn and get advice from other engaged and married women. I am very glad I posted this because I got a lot of great advice. We know we are going against the odds but we also know we are going to be the old married couple that celebrates their 60th wedding aniversary, still deeply in love. I know this will happen because we know that it is not going to be easy, and that marriage takes A LOT of work. Both our parents are still married, but they are not in love. We have learned so much from watching their failing marriages and as sad as it is, it is allowing us the will to look ahead into the future and realize that it is not always going to be so easy and happily ever after. (even though it sure feels that way now :-0) As long as we grow together and realize that marriage takes work, we will be that cute old couple in 60+ years. This is really important to me and I thank you all for being so helpful and kind! you guys are amazing!
Post # 3
If you have found the person, you have found the person.
I am not sure what you mean by doing married couple things, having sex, buying a house, children, joint checking accounts, etc. In my opinion most couples are married long before they sign papers. They haven’t saved anything for after marriage.
Marriage is a big deal. Divorce probably more so.
People are grumpy. And my guess is that some people are telling you not to marry based on what they shouldn’t have done.
Learning how to argue is important. Learning how to compromise, maybe more so.
My one question for you would be, if you are so certain you want to marry why would you ask on the board if you are too young?
Legally in most states you can marry at 18. 21 is old enough to drive, vote, buy alcohol, cigarettes, get birth control, sign up for online dating, buy your own car, get a credit card, and old enough to have already graduated college.
Only you can ultimately decide what is right for you.
Post # 4
@nik nu…I didn’t want to get married until I was at least in my mid-twenties. Plus I had never dated anyone up to that point that I loved that much.
That being said, my parents got married at 22 and will celebrate their 37th anniversary this year.
My guy’s parents met in high school, got married at 18, and celebrated their 36th anniversary a few days ago.
I don’t think that it’s about age, I think it’s about a maturity level which different people reach at different times, and when you meet the right person, you just know.
It sounds like you have each found your right person! 🙂
Post # 5
Congratulations on getting married! Obviously, you found the right person and you are both ready to make this committment. Good luck, and hopefully we’ll see you around the hive!
Post # 6
I always said that I would be well over 25 before I even got engaged. I had this whole idealistic timeline of my life planned out. Then I met my FI when I was only a few months over 20. We’ll be married by the time I’m 23. Sometimes when it works…it works. I wanted to date someone for years and years, be engaged for a few years, just to "make sure." This was a result of poor relationships and my lack of trust of people…but my FI totally shattered that. We got engaged when we had been dating for 4 months and will be married in less than a year from now. 🙂 There’s no right or wrong. I’m so happy that you found your "one" and that you’ve made the decision to be happy with him. Congratulations!
Post # 7
I hope that the advice you got, in all its variety, reaffirmed your decision to marry your fiance. That is usually the sign of a good decision. Congratulations and best wishes!
Post # 8
Despite I’m so sure that I want to get married, I can’t help being bothered by people telling me that I shouldn’t do that. I’m 23, I’ll be 24 on july.(not so young)
Here in Brazil is getting really common to live with your parents by the age of 30.
In my opinion most couples are married long before they sign papers.I totally agree with mizunoheaven. But I don’t want to wake up and realize I’m married. For me is important to make a conscious and public decision.