Respond to your RSVPs!!!!! [Vent]

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
Member
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

YogaFaerie:  ugh i feel your pain! i was expecting my mailbox to be flooded with RSVPs and they’re SLOWLY trickling in..like what are you doing with them? You’re either coming or your not! ha…i’m guilty of holding onto RSVPs in the past too so I guess i’m not one to talk, but i never will ever again! right in the mail they go. so frustrating!

Post # 3
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42549 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

YogaFaerie:  It is most definitely annoying when people do not return their rsvp’s in a timely manner.

I do suggest however, that you contact people individually, not via Facebook. Unless you have an separate Facebook group for those people invited to your wedding, it’s a little awkward for those “friends” who are not invited to your wedding to read a reminder posted to those who are.

Just phone or text the non-responders and tell them that if you don’t hear from them by _____, you will have to consider them a “no” and will miss them at the wedding.

Post # 4
Member
1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

I wouldn’t have put a status on you facebook telling people who were invited to the wedding to RSVP. Kinda rude. Used you’re planning on inviting all of your Facebook friends. I get that it’s frustrating. And it would be more time consuming. But call the people who haven’t RSVP’d yet. 

Post # 5
Member
1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I saw a facebook post from another bride tagging and calling out all the people who hadn’t RSVPed. I wanted to die of embarrassment. For Her. Sounds like you sent private messages (hopefully) but I would still recommend a text or phone call between you and each person. You can let them know your caterer needs a head count for meals and if you dont hear back you will have to assume they’re unable to attend. 

Post # 6
Member
716 posts
Busy bee

I feel like while a small number of people simply forget the deadline, most people who aren’t RSVPing don’t plan to come and just feel awkward about / don’t know how to say no.  Personally, I think you can send a single reminder to capture people who inadvertently forgot, but then just let it go.  If people intend to come, then they will respond and if they’re not responding, then they don’t intend to come. 

Post # 8
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our invites go out in 2 weeks, I’m so dreading this! I know there are alot of people who just won’t send in the RSVP and i’ll have to contact them.

Post # 10
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139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Oh, I so feel the frustration.  My deadline was August 1st and I only had about half of the RSVPs in. When I contacted some individually a couple told me that they just assumed i knew they were coming. Ummmmm! How am I supposed to know that?! I swear last week, the week folllowing the RSVP deadline, I received more response cards than before! I set up an online RSVP system and include stamped and addressed envelopes thinking I was making it easier for everyone.  I guess not! 

I will say, if I ever receive another invitation,  I am sending the RSVP back ASAP! lol

Post # 11
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - county fairgrounds

I have heard from 40 people out of 150, the deadline is September 1. And the 40 is including people like my maid of honor and mom whom I know will be there. I’m expecting a lot of them are going to send it at the last minute and I’m going to have to make a lot of phone calls and if I still don’t get an answer by “x” date I will just assume they aren’t coming…

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