(Closed) Response after sending save the dates

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We had very little reaction, aside from my FSILs who were very excited. I didn’t think anything of it, really.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m in the exact same situation!  Sorry I can’t help but I’m axious to read responses. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Yeah same here.  My and his parents were really excited, i got a few nice texts and FB posts from friends, and I’ve seen a few on friends’ fridges, but I haven’t heard from some folks.  We put our return address on them though, so I’m assuming they made it or they’ll get returned.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We have a very small guest list and they’re all close family and friends.  We got texts from folks saying they got them and thought they were cute.  A few people we didn’t hear from and we eventually emailed them to make sure we had their addresses right before we moved on to invitations.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@classyashley:  We received a handle of responses from folks who received our save the dates.  Most of them were to tell us that they were either excited and/or that they loved our save the dates.  I wouldn’t be concerned about it.  I typically don’t contact people when I get save the dates in the mail.  

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@classyashley:  same exact thing here! i guess i was expecting people to freak out over them like i had the last few months.  i obsesssed over making them.  i babied them, hand-addressed them, gave them love!  i couldn’t understand why people weren’t calling, texting, facebooking, instagramming.  it’s a tough blow realizing that no one cares about your wedding nearly as much as you do.

funny thing though- i did have a friend call and tell me that i forgot to include a rsvp card in his invitation and that he will be coming. ha.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

Yeah, the reaction to our STD’s was less than I was expecting. A few friends texted, traffic on our website has gone up, but I haven’t heard from some people that I expected to hear from. It’s slightly odd. A few very close friends have said that they booked their hotels already, so that’s great.

And the only people to sign our website guest book are friends of my fathers. What can you do? It’s only a STD.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Same thing happened to me. I think most the hits on the website are from me lol

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

My MOH and mum both told me they received theirs, but I never heard a thing from anyone else!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I did my Save-The-Dates over email and got a really nice response. I’m a web designer, so I made a nice graphic in an HTML email, and included the phone number to book hotel reservations and a link to our website.

12 people emailed back with “Yay! Can’t wait”-type responses, and after looking at our website analytics, I’d say almost everyone clicked through to our website. Also, I had done it shortly before the holiday season, so lots of people mentioned it at family parties.

Last time I contacted the hotel, we had 20 rooms booked already, and we’re still 7 months away from the wedding! I guess I’d highly recommend doing e-STDs, since it made it very easy for people to give feedback.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@classyashley:  It’s normal to be excited or anxious… but remember it’s YOUR wedding, not your guests. So their response is not going to be as enthusiastic as you would think. I actually don’t usually even mention I got an STD, unless it’s one of my BFFs.

For the invitations, no one is going to tell you they got theirs either. However, it is a LOT of fun getting those RSVP cards in the mail. SOOO much mail!!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think people think they’re supposed to respond to save the dates.  Especially if they already knew you were getting married.  We had a much bigger reaction to announcing our engagement than we have to the save the dates. 

We did ours via email to save a little money so I think it was a little easier for some of them to send responses immediately and to just directly click on our website. The views definitely went up, but we sent out over 200.  I’d say about 10-15 people wrote me back, 16 wrote on our guestbook on the website & a handful of co-workers said something to me in person. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have has some response to my STDs.  I have had a few people make hotel reservations already to have rooms together so I guess that’s promising!

Post # 16
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Helper bee

I got a lot of excited responses but that’s because I handed out a lot of them in person so they had to at least pretend they like them! Wink Any save the dates I sent through the post didn’t really result in any kind of reaction.

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