Post # 1
My guests will not be checking off a dinner choice, so they only have a “will come” or “will not come” option. How should I word these so that it’s clear I want to know if they are coming to the RECEPTION and not the CEREMONY?
I feel that the options of “accepts with pleasure” and “declines with regret” are not clear enough. Some people may not know what they’re accepting and declining.
(I want everyone to be at the ceremony, but the numbers do not matter for this.)
Post # 3
SO, if you don’t mind me asking, why are they not checking off a dinner choice?? I have been struggling lately with my menu options (buffet, plated meal or I can create my own with a choice of 2 entrees for guests.) I am in love with one of the plated options, but it means every guest will be eating the same thing and I too will not have any dinner choice on their response card. Is that why you aren’t putting a choice on yours?? My invitations will say Cocktails and Formal Reception to follow, or something of that nature, so that guests know they are invited to the ceremony and reception. I hope that helps!
Post # 4
@BlueChampagne: do you really think people would come for the ceremony and not the reception? I have never heard of this, so I just didn’t worry about it. Here is my response card.
Post # 5
We are thinking of doing family style at each table, so there will be many options for everyone.
Also, I guess I should specify that there is a Catholic gap between ceremony & reception and they are not at the same location.
Post # 6
Haha, Corgi, I like yours!
I think everyone would come to both, but my parents disagree. So I’m trying to find another wording that satisfies them.
Post # 7
you could provide an information card of the time and place of the reception, that way everyone knows they are invited, and also how to get there since it’s at a different location.
Post # 8
i think most people associate the RSVP card with the reception but just in case you could do maybe put Reception Immediately following the ceremony (or whatever time it starts) or you could do a reception card…thats what we did that said Cocktails, Dinner and Dancing immeddiately following the Ceremony at (the address) then i put info on how to book rooms and directions to the reception – then i included and additional RSVP card that they send back to me that says accept regrets. etc.
Reception Immediately following the Ceremony
The favor of your reply is requested on or before _______
___Accepts ___Regrets(you could get creative with these like CorgiTales did! love it)
Post # 9
@BlueChampagne: we are doing a catholic mass as well though our gap isnt huge. we get married at 3 and cocktails start at 5. so technically an hour in between but that give them time to get to the reception location and stuff.
Post # 10
I guess if you’re worried you could just make it clear at the top of the RSVP? Something like: Please indicate if you will be joining us for our reception at _____. Number of guests attending reception: ___
Post # 11
i’ve never heard of someone attending the ceremony but not reception. i like corgi’s wording…”number of guests attending reception:___”
Post # 12
I also think that most people understand that you are asking for attendance for the reception, not just the ceremony and I think that if people were intending only to come for the ceremony and not the reception, they would let you know.
We had several events (wedding weekend thing), so it’s not quite the same, but ours said something like:
The favor of your response is requested by X date.
___ dinner reception
___ morning after brunch
I suppose you could do “Number attending: ___ ceremony and ___ reception” but I think that’s a little strange.
Post # 13
Unless you have a lot of 22 year old single guys coming, I think you can safely assume that everyone knows an RSVP card is for the reception!
For church weddings, invitation suites traditionally would have a separate reception card, indicating the time and address, enclosed along with the RSVP card. Some guests might only receive the invitation to attend the actual ceremony (no RSVP), while the remainder would receive the additional reception details. These days, it’s more typical to invite all your guests and the wording may be noted on the invitation itself.
If you are still worried that people won’t get it, you could put a line at the top that says something like “We are looking forward to celebrating with you at VENUE!”
Post # 14
I don’t think its an issue. I have never received an invitation with a dinner option. I always know the response card is asking if you are coming to the reception as they obviously need to know number of plates.
Post # 15
Thank you all for your comments.