(Closed) Response card wording, minus the wiggle room…

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
1982 posts
Buzzing bee


____ accepts with pleasure

____ declines with regret


____ number in party


Just don’t put the M. You don’t have to be so blunt to spell out name, but have a line to write names, definitely.

Post # 4
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Instead of the M____ line, print out their names. That way it is clear to them who is invited and clear to you if/when they decide to return the card as to whom it is from. However that only works if you are printing your own as catalog invites do not offer any options of the sort.

If you do decide to have a line for people to write in their own names, make sure that it says ‘Name” at the beginning because you would be surprised at the number of people who cannot figure out simple instructions. Most folks are not that bad but you have prepare for the worst.

Post # 6
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

what if underneath “accepts” you just put “___ of ___ attending”? I think that’s what we’re doing

Post # 7
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I did mine like this, because I need to give FULL names of EVERY guest to our venue, so if somebody’s bringing a random date, I need them to tell me their name, and it won’t work if I invite a family of 5, and they just tell me 3/5 are coming.  The lines under accecpt/deline are check boxes.


Kindly reply by the blah of blah

(Full name)             accepts       declines

_______________        _____          _____

_______________        _____          _____

_______________        _____          _____

_______________        _____          _____


I’m hoping people will get it…

Post # 8
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re also going the “____ of _____ attending” and writing in how many people are invited.  It will take more time on our part, but hopefully it will make it make more sense. 🙂

Post # 9
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ours has a line on the bottom that reads:

Entree preference

meat________________   vegetarian_________________


The plan is for people to put the number of meals they need for each.


We are also doing the M line even though there are plenty of doctors attending. I don’t know any of them who would care, so unless you have surgeons attending (who are notorious for being prissy about their titles) I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 10
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I did mine all sneaky. My hope is that the menu options will be like, “2 Cow, 1 Chicken, 1 Veggie”.  That should tell me that there are 4 people, if people are smart.


Post # 11
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@silverbrooke – I’m VERY curious, what’s on the back of yours?

Post # 12
143 posts
Blushing bee

You could handwrite/calligraph the names on your response cards? That could get pricey/time-consuming, though…

Post # 13
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@silverbrook: i LOVE your kids option for the menu card. I used blocks  in my mockup and no one knows what they mean!!

Post # 14
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I tried not to leave any wiggle room on my RSVP cards at all.

It might have been a bit “wordy” but It worked great and there was really no confusion on who was coming who they were bringing and what they wanted to eat.  I had invited people with both young and Really young children.  Also my venue charged an automatic “drink” charge for each adult meal (meaning I had to pay for the open bar for each regular adult meal).  Thats why I wanted to be sure I knew if young kids were attending.

 Mine looked something like this:

Please respond on or before

June 20, 2009

Please list all guests full names below (use back for more space)


    _____ Accepts                   _____ Regrets


Number of guest attending that are vegetarians _____

Number of children 12 years old or younger  _____

Young children that do not need a meal provided  _____

Do you need a highchair? ____

Post # 15
1011 posts
Bumble bee

Here’s what I decided to do for mine . . . I’m going to write in the guests’ names.  If they bring a “substitute” guest (if it’s Mr & Mrs), without changing the names, their escort card will just be wrong.  If guests get “added,” then who ever has invited that person gets to call and say no plus one or children (I’m more concerned about children).  The only children I’m having are the wedding party and nieces/nephews and children of of first cousins (who are traveling half way across the country for the wedding).  I’m going to either include a note or conact those parents personally to see if they need high chairs or kids’ meals.  Oh, and I have a feeling I know who the vegetarians are that do not eat meat and will contact them separately too.

Post # 16
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No matter how the card is set up, someone is going to forget to write their name on the card.  It’s like in elementary school when you turn in your homework and 9 times out of 10, someone leaves their name off and the teacher has to scramble to find out who it was.

My advice is to number the backs of the cards and have a list at home with which card was sent to which person.  Then if a blank one comes back in, you can check your list to find out who’s response it is.  Also, you can always follow up with people if it’s unclear how many people are attending or which 3 of the 5 family members, etc.  🙂

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