Response Cards

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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129 posts
Blushing bee

Is it an adult reception only was that on the invite? I would call them and tell them that it’s adults only and apologize for the misunderstanding- (even though you shouldn’t have to apologize for it comes across more understanding/compassionate/friendly). That’s what I would do.

Post # 3
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6506 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would have your FI call and explain that the invite was extended to the adults and that he hopes they can still make it.

Post # 4
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

This happened to us. We ended up with 6 extra children that weren’t invited to our small wedding. We decided just to suck it up and not make waves. I think you are well within your rights to call and explain that you cannot accommodate extra guests, though. 🙂 The breach of etiquette is on them, not you.

Post # 5
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ugh, annoying! I invited a couple from FI’s side of the family (the wife is FI’s cousin), and she wrote a passive aggressive response on the reply card because I didn’t invite her kids. I would totally understand if they couldn’t go because they didn’t want to leave their kids at home with a sitter – just don’t be rude about it.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

“There must have been some misunderstanding. We are not able to accomodate extra guests. If that means you are unable to attend the wedding, we wil miss you.”

Do not give any reason why you cannot accomodate extras. For some people, that is an automatic trigger for them to solve the rpoblem:

no room?- no problem, the children will sit on our laps

no budget?- no problem, we will pay for their plates

adult reception? – our children are very mature for their age.

Just stick to the basic mesage.

Post # 7
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My response card confusion has been that people don’t understand they are supposed to indicate the number of guests and instead they just put a check mark so I’m hoping that applies only to the people indicated in the label as invited otherwise there might be a bunch of people we didn’t know were coming at our wedding

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

julies1949:  I love that response, I know I will have to say something along those lines for my September wedding.  Adults only but some ‘family’ doesn’t seem to be getting the message!!!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We had a friend of FI’s mother add her son and his gf to their RSVP. We had FMIL handle it and they decided they couldn’t come. We weren’t to disappointed. 

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