(Closed) Response Wording

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
12 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

i LOVE this idea. so many brides and grooms have the distinct honor and pleasure of having some pushy friend that feels they are entitled to bring their +1 of the moment. this is tacky and disgusting. DO THEY KNOW HOW MUCH IT COSTS TO HOST A TRILLION OF YOUR NEAREST AND DEAREST friends for an elegant evening of dinner, dancing, etc? I think it’s a very subtle and wonderful way to circumvent raising issues.

however, a caviat: i had a friend do something similar and she had a guest cross out that number and put one extra. the gaul of some people! REALLY!

Post # 4
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Nope! We did this because we were worried about people inviting others, and we wanted to avoid those awkward, “Sorry, your Aunt Millie isn’t invited” calls. Granted, we only sent out about 50 invites (100 people total), but no one RSVP’d more than what was stated on the card 🙂

I think this is the right right to go. It will make you feel better knowing you at least did all you could to prevent more invites.

Post # 5
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I do not think it’s tacky. But then again I am biased, since I did the same thing.  This is how we worded it:

Guests Invited: __4__

Guests Attending: ______

I wanted to avoid the same thing.  This way it’s pretty clear.  Although I did hear from my Maid/Matron of Honor that she actually had a response card where the number was crossed off and the guest had ADDED!  Hope that doesn’t happen to me, if it does I would have to make a call. 

Post # 7
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t think that it’s tacky or rude at all.

It makes it very clear to your guests who may or may not be familiar with the inner envelope etiquette as to whom is invited to the actual wedding.

I did think and it hasn’t been a problem as of yet.

We also had the calligrapher fill in the names of the guest who were invited so all they had to do was check whether or not they would be able to make it to the wedding.

Post # 8
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We just gave two place for people to fill in names.  Those who are allowed to bring children are having their children in our wedding so they are aware.  So our response cards look like this –

Please offer guest names and entree selection

M___. __________________

chicken (  )  steak (   ) salmon (   )

M__. ___________________

chicken (  ) steak (   ) salmon (   )

Post # 9
2475 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Our RSVP cards will say “______ of _____ guests will attend” (where obviously we fill in the second line of how many guests are invited).

I felt like this may be better than doing “We have reserved 2 seats in your honor” – which we considered, because I didn’t want guests to forget to actually note whether they would be bringing a guest or not.

Before that line we have the obligatory M______________ to put in their names. 

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