Post # 1
I am having a semi/formal evening wedding in June. I am considering asking for the response/RSVP via our wedding website. Is this tacky? Has anyone done it? How did it work for you? Or if you received one how would you feel about it?
Post # 2
pnkprttygrl: I think having people RSVP online is fine. It really depends on the design and the ease of use for your guest so they are getting you the proper information.
I plan to mail out RSVP cards to select family members who are older or more traditional and send an electronic invitation suite (invite, RSVP, wedding website) to the more technologically inclinded.
Post # 3
You may also want to move this to another part of the board since the question is specifically related to invitations opposed to cutural topics.
Post # 4
pnkprttygrl: I would personally think it’s totally fine/acceptable!
However, I’ll tell you what one of my bridesmaids told me when I was considering doing this (she had planned her own wedding already):
“Lots of people, especially older guests, will not take this seriously. Even if they’re ok with technology and RSVP’ing online, lots of people don’t feel as ‘locked in’ to a ‘yes’ RSVP when they respond online than if they have to actually write something on a card and put it in the mailbox.”
I don’t know that this applies to everyone, but it’s worth thinking about!
Post # 5
My sister did it last year. All but 2 of 250 people RSVPd 10 days before the due date. However, some e-mailed, called, or texted their meal choices, so not everyone used the website to do it. It had nothing to do with age, either, as my 88 year old grandmother uses a computer.
Post # 6
We’re not doing online RSVP’s but we’ve gotten invitations where we had to do it. I don’t think it’s tacky in the slighest! Go ahead and do it!
Post # 7
Go for it!!! Last year I went to a wedding that only accepted RSVPs online and it was great. The invitation told guests to go directly to the wedding website to RSVP. In fact, immediately after receiving the invitation I went online to RSVP, so easy! On the website there was a search-like box where we typed in our last name, hit enter, and then my name appeared with options under it for accept/decline and food choices. The groom said everyone responded online, even the older people.
Post # 7
I don’t like them. I don’t think they’re tacky, I just know I forget to RSVP on online sites. I can remember to mail a response card back because I leave it on the counter with my outgoing mail. I will procrastinate responding because I’m not always at a computer, and more than likely, I’ll just forget to respond.
Post # 10
Do it! Love onlune RSVPs. I received a very fancy invite that came in a box and had rhinestones enclosures and the RSVP was a wedding website.
Post # 9
Do it! We’re going the paperless route too, and so far I’ve found to be pretty easy and user-friendly. The only exception we made was a few older invitees that we didn’t think were computer-savvy enough; we gave them an enclosure that said to give us a call!
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
We did this. It worked out totally fine.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for your help.I think I am going to do a little of both online/phone/mail RSVPs. However I will not include the stamp.
Post # 13
We’ve gotten so many rsvps back already (over 50% of guests have rsvpd before 4 mos out) because we have it setup online and whenever we’ve mailed out anything to guests (save the dates, bridal party info, invites), we also send them an electronic copy from our website that links them straight back to the website when they click on it. (our website’s with glosite.com – just love them)
I do think that if couples are doing online rsvps, then they should also email their guests something linking them to the website (makes it much easier). (just like if you’re requesting responses by mail, send them by mail)
our wedding’s also semi-formal. So many guests have been contacting me to say the love the invitations, nobody’s said the online rsvp is tacky.
after a much older relative rsvpd online months ago (after receiving her save the date), I realized I didn’t even need to give optional paper or phone options. For us, anybody who wouldn’t rsvp online wouldn’t rsvp the other ways either and would, instead, relay their rsvp through a relative, etc. and we get that info & just enter it on the website.
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
On my wedding invitations I made sure to include my wedding website and my separate email address so that people could RSVP either way. A lto of people read the invitation and did it correctly. But not everyone is computer literate in today’s society…really a shock! So some of the older people I had to get their RSVP via phone. And when I did I just added them to my wedding website myself.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
We did it and it was really fast and easy! Of course some people had to be reminded, but I think that would happen with paper RSVPs too. In the end we got about 90% responses.