Post # 1
Anyone do this?
We got into planning, had a venue deposit put down and everything…then it occurred to me (once the excitement wore off) that I was only planning a reception because FH wanted one.
I went to him and told him “I’d rather just to the courthouse like I started off saying. You know me, I don’t want this” So he came up with just getting married on a public pier in my home city and then taking our closest friends/family (45 max) out for dinner…sounds PERFECT. I’d be comfortable, it would be in Annapolis which I love, it sounds great…and now I don’t know what to expect : /
Is there a way to pull this off without renting a room? I have my heart set on an evening dinner but I haven’t found an affordable restaurant that will rent out a room/space at night. Could you personally imagine not having a private room?
I dunno, anyone have tips, stories, pics or anything?
Post # 3
Your wedding plan sounds wonderful. I don’t know Annapolis, but my/MIL’s research into venues for our rehearsal dinner actually turned up a lot of restaurants that would let you reserve a private room. It can definitely get expensive, and feeding 45 people at a restaurant is not going to be cheap unless you find a really inexpensive place to eat. It’s certainly possible though, and you could end up somewhere really fun and delicious that way. I’d start by doing internet searches on rehearsal dinner venues in your area, and look for restaurants which state on their website that they are suitable for private events.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
My DH’s cousin got married in a state park and then we had dinner at their favorite local italian restaurant. They didn’t really have their own private room, and it was still wonderful. We were all seated around each other and people gave speeches and things and it was fine. I think it’s such a romantic idea. Just check out different spaces and see how you feel.
Post # 5
you may even find a cute restaurant on or near the pier…i originally really wanted a beach or outdoor park wedding, and we were able to find a restaurant on the beach that has an outdoor dining space that they rent out for events. they even have rentals specifically for weddings. you may be able to marry your wishes w/ FH’s quite easily. btw, love the idea of being on the pier!
Post # 6
I’m surprised that you can’t find a place that will give you a room. Obvioulsy, Annapolis and Oklahoma City are very different markets, but mose of the restaurants I looked at give you the room for “free” if you meet a food/beverage limit. You might try going on a site like gatherguide.com to check out private rooms ( I think opentable.com has a list of private dining options as well).
We are doing a restaurant reception, and while we’ll be having some traditional reception elements (cake cutting, some dancing for people that want to), the focus of the reception is sharing an excellent meal with the people we care most about. We aren’t really decorating (another plus of many restaurants…everything is included and many places are decently decorated already).
Good luck…I hope you find the perfect place!
Post # 7
Thank you all for the responses!!I think it sounds very “us”. We’re a laid back couple, I love annapolis (which is why I’m SO thrilled the thought of a pier quickie ceremony) and the dinner thing just sounds so simple and lovely!
I think I’m open to the thought of not having a puclic space, just wasn’t sure if that “looked bad” or anything. My parents have offered to help pay so since we’re saving on EVERYTHING (officiant is a family friend, photographer is a co-worker, rings/dress/suit are not in budget) I think we could swing something decent
Post # 8
We’re doing a restaurant reception. We found some places that charge room fees and others that don’t. The one we picked doesn’t have a room fee, just a minimum of 20 guests (or just pay for 20 guests although we should have 20-30). We’re also still have cake cutting and toasts but probably not dancing. I think you could definitely find some place though like someone else suggested that may reserve a whole outdoor space for you or something like that.
Post # 9
@nmsoonerbride: We’re only on day 2 and have only contacted 3 places… I’m sure we’ll find something…eventually..
2 of the places have a 100 guest minimum, 1 of those 2 you have do to a pacakage deal with all sorts of shit we don’t want and a third place ends private events at 3:30. T
hank you for the links!
Post # 10
I was doing this. Now we are going to have it in our hometown, traditional style. I would love to do it they way we had it planned but it would’ve been $2000 more. The room was free but we had a $5700 min., plus 9% tax and 20% tip.
Post # 11
Ours is a huge room (big enough for a cocktail party for 250) and we’ll do a sit down dinner for 50-60. They have a $3000 minimum food/bev (plus tax and gratiity which are not included in the minimum). They don’t have a person minimum. The room is too big for us, of course, but we’ll set up an area for the kids, and then set up a dj and dance area and so I think we’ll be okay.
Many places will ask you to have a set menu (two or three options to make things easier for the ktichen). You can decided what if any alcohol to offer up.
Post # 12
I did a restaurant wedding and reception, but we rented out the entire restaurant for our 100 person wedding, so that is not really comparable.
But that being said, I do love Annapolis. I organized a work function in Annapolis last year and had a lunch for 25 people at Galway Bay, which is an Irish Pub in the city. I had a great experience working with their manager, we had a semi-private space and the food was outstanding. I don’t know if Irish Pub is the vibe you are going for, but just wanted to put it out there.
Post # 13
@MsTerrapin: I LOVE Galway Bay!
Post # 14
I loved the idea of a restaurant wedding after how fun and intimate our rehearsal was. (we had about 45 people)
I think it would help to have a separate room. I don’t know Annapolis at all, but you might want to check out a place that regularly serves breakfast and lunch, because they can open for dinners and aren’t terribly expensive.
Post # 15
I live in Annapolis and I’m trying to think of larger restaurants that would accomodate 45 people…maybe Pussers or Fado? We are having our rehearsal dinner at Galway Bay (35 people) and they have been wonderful! Very accomodating! So they may be able to accomodate a party of 45. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 16
We had a restaurant “reception” after our JoP ceremony. We didn’t have reservations … just showed up at our favorite restaurant and asked for a table for 13, which was pretty easy to accommodate!
Our reception was the best … I felt zero pressure, everyone got the food and drinks they wanted, and it was so very personal!