Post # 1
Lately I’ve been feeling restless. I always want to buy something new, move, or think that I need to be more organized. In my eyes I feel like I could be a better student, better at keeping the house clean and or organized, a better worker.. whatever it may be.
I’ve realized that I need to be thankful for what we have because it could be worse. Our bills are paid. We have some spending money. We’re in college. We have jobs. We’re fine. Every time I start enjoying our newlywed life I start ruining my happiness by thinking we need to keep moving or I need to improve at something. A house, kids, a better job, are years away because of school and what not. Honestly, I don’t even want the responsibility of kids right now or anytime soon.
Does anyone else feel like this sometimes? What do you do?
Post # 4
@headoverhighheels: I def felt like that right after my wedding, and I am feeling it again now. I have spent the last couple of days moving things around in my closets. I spent (and have spent) a lot of time sitting on my laptop pinning home decor, without actually doing anything to decorate. I think it’s hard when you’ve just organized something and spent all your spare time organizing to just stop wanting to organize. I also think that once you have achieved something (if getting married is properly considered an achievement) it takes awhile to come up with something else to do! I think what I have tried to do is to work on the space that I am in (instead of trying to move or obsessing over buying a house or what not) and try not to live in the future of what’s going to happen. But I think newlywed is a weird phase that takes some time getting used to!
Post # 5
I can see where you are coming from, but there are always ways to improve your life or add changes to keep it interesting. Take up new hobbies (which could be as simple and inexpensive as learning to cook a new type of cuisine).
Post # 6
Its sounds like you need a hobby or new skill to work on. Perhaps read all the books on the NYT best seller list, learn a new language, take up knitting, organize your apartment, learn to cook, etc. Exercise/taking up running is something that will definitely help you for life. Set some goals for yourself 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t know if that will hit me after the wedding or not (I still have 7 weeks to go!), but what you’re experiencing sounds a lot like what I went through towards the end of college. My FI was still my BF, we were doing the long-distance thing, and he was taking a year off after graduation/starting law school. I felt really uncomfortable where I was; I wanted to fast forward to when I was ready to graduate, move in with my BF, and get engaged, and as a result I didn’t really enjoy those last years of school. I mean, sure, the long-distance thing sucked, but I had my own life to come home to every week, with hardly any responsibilities outside school, something I wish I’d savored more at the time.
If you’re not ready for a house or kids, then don’t worry about them. Focus on what’s important now: finishing school and enjoying being a newlywed. Its a new year, so its a good time to pick up a new hobby or skill to occupy what was once wedding planning time. If you want something to actually plan, how about a first newlywed vacation?
Post # 8
I felt pretty restless after returning from the honeymoon. I’ve tried a few new hobbies (sewing, cooking, baking) and thinking of applying for a new job, but have to wait to see what DH is doing first (he might be offered a job overseas).
I also want to start ttc soon (although before wedding I had said I wanted to wait a couple of years). I think the urge to start is my restless with current life (which isn’t hte best reason), though I would LOVE a baby, and decorating a nursery… Just have to wait to see how DH’s work situation works out, then apply for a new job myself, see if he’s ready to ttc <sigh>
I think we both need a new all consuming project to replace the wedding planning gap. Just yet to figure out what it is…
Post # 9
Restless I feel ya. I love my husband with all my heart. But I feel kind of like nothing is going on in our lives right now. We are in the process of saveing for a house and waiting to ttc until we are settled in a house. I feel like a ton of people I know are either getting married soon, getting engaged or haveing babies. And I feel like my moments over and I kinda want it back. I knit, cook, read, make soap and lots of other stuff but its still hard.
Post # 10
I’m glad that I’m not alone 🙂
Sometimes being full time students, working 40+ hours, trying to stay in shape, keep our apartment in line, etc gets to be so much that I get caught up in constantly doing something and I just want to do nothing.
Thanks for all of your advice and experiences. 🙂