Post # 1
At first, I was really gung-ho on doing Save the Dates. We just got our engagement pictures back (yay!!!!), and they turned out really well! We’ve been going through the guest list, and we honestly have some people we’re on the fence about inviting. We’ve been looking at a few options:
1) Send out Save the Dates to just family and good friends. However, I also know that there’s a risk of someone finding out that they didn’t receive one.
2) Wait a little bit to send out Save the Dates (wedding is near the end of June, so maybe send them out in December) when we have the guest list a little more finalized.
3) Just send Save the Dates to people who are out of town.
4) Scrap the plan altogether.
I’m honestly starting to lean a little more towards Option 4. However, I really want to design them, and I was kind of looking forward to that step of the process. How did everyone else handle/are planning to handle their Save the Date plan?
Post # 3
@keepsmiling19: You have a june saturday wedding…I would send save the dates just because I’d be so worried people would end up at someone elses wedding if you don’t ‘reserve’ them! I would wait though till you have a much more final guest list- once you send the save the date you can’t uninvite the person without looking like a uber jerk.
Post # 4
You can always invite people who didn’t get a save the date later. It’s just a save the date. If you’re on the fence with anyone, don’t send them a save the date and you can decide later.
Post # 5
We are getting married June 9 and I was afraid NOT to send save the dates. That’s such a busy time for people with other weddings and vacations that if you don’t tell them about yours, they probably won’t make it. I am sending mine out at the beginning of September. But, if you wanted to maybe narrow the list of people who could probably come, wait a little longer to send them. I’ve read all different time frames for sending them and I think the shortest was 6 months. I would just invite everyone, even if you’re on the fence. Odds are they might not come and it’s a celebration!
Post # 6
My wedding was way out of town for a lot of friends and family.. so I sent the save the dates as soon as I had the venue booked. It was going to require a vacation day for travels, and would be a significant expense for plane tickets, hotel rooms, and rental cars. I thought it was only fair to give those far away a heads up so that if they wanted to be here, that they could plan and save to do it.
I ONLY sent save the dates to the out of towners. My ‘locals’ guest list had a lot of fluctation and guessing, that I waited until 2 months before the wedding to finalize it. They will only be getting wedding invites.
Post # 7
We didn’t send them. The majority of our guests already know the date just from previous discussions, and our families will spread the word verbally to their invitees. Since most of our guests are friends who live in the area, it just didn’t seem necessary for us.
Post # 8
We’re sending out save the dates out in January. The important people already know the date, but like you…. we love our epics!! Haha, so we are doing a save the date magnet from vistaprint. It’s cheap.. I think we’re getting 100 magnets for like $90.
I know some people sent their save the dates already, but I just feel like it’s so early! If you’re going to send them I think you can wait until you are more set with your guest list. But… they’re not necessary either so if you want to just scrap the whole thing I think that’s alright too!!
Post # 9
My wedding is June 22, 2012 and we are also having a lot of out of town guests so I just sent the STD’s to the out of town guests last week so they can plan their travel. For the more local folks, I’m still debating sending them, but if I do it won’t be for another couple months and I hope to have the guest list finalized by then.
Post # 10
I have sent our save-the-dates as we have a lot of overseas guests that we would love to come – I know in the same boat, I’d like as much warning as possible I was invited! However, we decided to only send the Save-The-Date Cards to those we were unlikely to see before the wedding (generally because of distance). We’ve also given them to close family as souvenirs 🙂 It did cut down on costs that way!
Post # 11
Hey we are getting married on the same day!!! I live in Australia so June is off peak season for weddings and holidays so we are only sending Save The Dates to my family who will be travelling. Its totally your call who you send them too, but yes as other brides have mentioned once you send a Save The Date to someone its very rude not to follow it up with an invite.
Post # 12
All very good points! We agree, if you send a STD, you get a wedding invite. We never thought otherwise on that one. We do have somewhat of a limited guest list.
My fear is that we send out our Save the Dates to people. Later, when we send out invites and start getting “no” responses, we may invite some other people in their place. I hate to use the terms “A list” and “B list”. I’m afraid that people who only get a wedding invite will talk to others and realize that they got a Save the Date, when they didn’t, thus feeling like they are “B list”. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, it truly does come down to numbers.
What is everyone else doing?