Post # 1
I have to leave in an hour for my mom’s retirement party.
Her employer (a very large international company) is hosting the party. The party is for her, and another co-worker. I have never met the man. We had to pay $25 for a ticket to the party. The cost includes food, a drink ticket, and the remainder is put towards a gift for both my mom, and this gent.
This summer, we are taking my mom on a trip to Atlantic City to celebrate, so none of us kids were worried about giving her a separate gift. However, yesterday I was out and decided to grab something small for her to open at the party. I wasn’t thinking about it, and I did not get so much as a card for the man who is sharing her party.
Question: do you think it is appropriate to give her the gift at the party, or should I wait until later? I know if she sees the co-worker open other gifts she will feel left out, but I also don’t want to be rude as I do not have anything for him. I cannot leave it in the car. I am being dropped off and DH is meeting me there.
Post # 2
I’d just bring it in and give it to her at the party…it’s your mom, it would be weird for this guy to be offended about it, and I’m sure he won’t be
Post # 3
smoocheepoo : Agree with PP – give it to her at the party; I think it’d be weird to get something for the other man that you know nothing about and have never met. You’re there for her party, it just happens to be at the same time/place as someone else’s.
Post # 4
I agree; it’s your mom. You can give her anything you like. If you were attending the party SOLELY for this other dude (like if he were a coworker you barely knew but everyone else is attending so you go also) then MAYBE a card, but the fact of the matter is that you are attending for you mom. Not other dude. You are there to support and celebrate HER, and there will be people who are there solely for him. And that’s fine.
Post # 5
lula0508 : wildflower3 : kcwilson11 : thanks bees. I brought it, and I am so glad I did. There was a table for “extra gifts,” so it was completely appropriate, and not noticeable that I didn’t bring him anything.