Retracting an accepted job offer – help!

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
2419 posts
Buzzing bee


Congratulations on getting a better offer!

This exact scenario happened to a friend of mine about a year ago. She was actually not going to accept the better job offer, until her mother and I gave her a talking to! LOL

I can see how you’d feel badly for the first company, but honestly, this happens in business all the time. You would be surprised. Unless you’ve signed some kind of contract, you are under no obligation to the first company. Just tell them nicely that you thank them for the offer, but a better opportunity came up and you simply can’t turn it down. 

Post # 5
2419 posts
Buzzing bee


I would call, but I would be prepared for the possibility that you might get a rude or somewhat snarky response.

But that’s OK. Just put on your big girl panties and do this the upstanding way and allow them the chance to express a little frustration, if that ends up being the case. Hopefully they will be nice about it.

Then you can hang up the phone and walk away with a clear conscience.


Post # 6
1509 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@BelliniChic:  This, exactly!


This happened to me a few years ago. I had applied for a couple jobs that both paid significantly more than I was making. One I really wanted and the other would be easy and paid well.

Well the easy one offered me a job and I accepted, about 10 days later the job I really wanted offered me a position and paid about $5 less/hr to start but was way more in line with where I saw myself going. I took the one I really wanted and called up the other, apologized and just said I was offered a position with a company I had been trying to get into for a long time and I couldnt refuse. They never said anything rude to me but I could tell they werent happy. 

You have to do whats right for you.

Post # 7
2376 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I was in a similar position right after I graduated college.  I verbally accepted a teacher’s aide position at one school (though I’m a licensed teacher) because there weren’t any other positions available at the time. About 3 weeks later, I was offered a teaching position at another school. There was no way I was turning that position down. I hated calling the principal at the other school to decline the aide position, but it had to be done. I told them I was very gracious of the offer because it was a great school, but I told him I needed to take the chance at the actual teaching position. He understood (though he was a bit snippy with me), and that was that. I probably ruined any chance of ever teaching at that one school as long as that particular principal is there, but I don’t regret it one bit. You do what you know is best for you. Good luck!

Post # 8
3381 posts
Sugar bee

@serenitea:  I would just call him ASAP and tell him I’m sorry, but I’ve had a change of plans.

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