Post # 1
My fiance and I already live together. We are hosting the wedding ourselves and therefore want to put our names on the return address. What is the proper etiquette? We discussed using our last names but they are so similar it might look funny: Friedland/Friedman. He like the idea of just our first names (Debra & David)…but I think that’s too informal (even though we did that for our engagement dinner, save-the-dates, and thank you cards). Does anyone have any other thoughts, ideas or suggestions??
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
I like the idea of just your first names. Your last names are on the invitation and half the people won’t even look or think twice about the names on the return portion.
Post # 4
We were living together and hosting, too. Here’s what our return label looked like (we couldn’t fit both our first and last names on the same line) :
P. Hislastname & S. Herlastname
1234 Any Street
Any Town, CA 12345
P.S. I also think first names are fine. 🙂
Post # 5
We just did our first names.
Post # 6
I think I would just do first initial and last name. It still looks somewhat formal.
Post # 7
I think that just looks to informal for the actual invitation. We did "Smith-Jones Wedding" on ours.
Post # 8
Although we haven’t yet sent out invitations, we did that (only first names) for our Save the Dates and I plan to do that on the invites as well.
Post # 9
We live together, but we’re just putting my first and last name. I like the idea of first initial. lastname, but didn’t think of it.
We went with my name because it seems more traditional that the brides family hosts (although his is almost matching the cost).
If your wedding is going to be casual, I think first names are fine.
Post # 10
My fiance and I also live together, but we are just putting my name down to avoid any "talk" amongst my parents’ friends, some of whom are conservative/traditional and may not approve. I don’t know if that’s even an issue for you, but if it is, just putting down your name may be easier. Otherwise list the return address like this:
Post # 11
I haven’t sent out the save the date cards or invitations but was thinking of doing the first initial last name thing also. For the invitation itself we are using the more formal style
Post # 12
We did this! You’ve already broken the "rules" by living together first, why not?
Post # 13
Well, technically, I have my own place and he has his … but we mostly are always at his. So I’ve kind of … moved in … but not really officially … if that makes sense? Lol.
I am not sure how to handle this either. My fmil said to me that it isnt nice to put both of our names if the rsvps are going to be sent to fiances place, to put just his. Which, I really have no problem with.
She said I can send them to her house if I want, but it might be weird since she’s not the one hosting it, and I don’t want to them to my parents house for other reasons I am not disclosing!
Post # 14
We bought a place together and he’s not moving in until after the wedding. i made a cool stamp with both of our names and new address. I’m using it and it has HIS last name with mine. I’m sure I’m breaking some rules there….
Post # 15
OH i totally did this. I don’t think it’s a big deal or that it’s informal…the invitations have to go SOMEWHERE, right? My FI is in the military so there has to be one solid address between the two of us. And, I hand-calligraphied my own invitations so they aren’t informal at all.
And i even printed an engagement photo on the left hand corner. Way adorable. I used my avatar so it printed nicely in B/W. You can always list yourself as Ms. ___ & Mr. ___ and then your address, or as someone said above, the Friedman-Fieldman Wedding, which is a nice way to go. I do like that.
Really, I doubt ANYBODY will notice, except to take note of your address to send you gifts down the road. I got a lot of mail that says "emily and C" with no last name or even some to Mr. and Mrs. S using his last name. But if you go with a shorter first line, you can put a picture in like I did!!! And I just printed that on my home computer. Everybody was telling me how cute they were, etc.
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Wait, the return address? You don’t need to put ANY names on the return address, just the address! For your RSVPs, though, it doesn’t really matter if you put one name or both (I’m putting just mine, not his, because I’m going to be the one checking them!).