Post # 1
What is the proper etiquette for return address labels for wedding invitations that we send out? Does the brides name go first or the grooms or does it really matter?
What about the response envelopes? I was going to pre-address them with our names and address, but again, who comes first?
I have a big inkiling that the IL’s will complain if I come first so I suggested FI coming first for his people and me for my people so that his family won’t throw a fit but he said we will do what etiquetts says and well I can’t find that answer.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2009 - Red Fish Grill
I believe that the return and RSVP response addresses are traditionally those of the person/people hosting the wedding. Even though Mr. Y and I paid for most of our wedding, we went old school with our invitations and listed my parents first (as those "inviting you to celebrate in their joy…"), so the return address on the back featured our wedding logo and just their address (no names). The RSVP envelopes had my parents’ names and address, since they were "hosting" the event.
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Post # 4
The return addresses are generally those of the hosts of the party, traditionally the brides parents.
However, if your return address is your own home and you live together, I would put the bride’s name first….sort of deferring to a "ladies first" mentality, which seems the most traditional to me. Why do you think your fiance’s family would be upset if his name were not first?
Another way to do it would be to alphabetize the names by last name. Or you could leave out names altogether and just have the return address (or call yourselves "The Happy Couple" or use just your first names).
Post # 5
Why do you think your fiance’s family would be upset if his name were not first?
They seem to have a problem with anything when their son doesn’t come first or we compromise (i.e. he doesn’t get what he wants 100% of the time) 😉
I figured out the return address: it seems you put just the address on the back of the envelope so no names there!
I have thought about doing "The happy couple" as well…I think we will use something similar to this!
Thanks Chelsea and Mrs. Yorkie!