Return address on invites?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

Well, my parents are paying for nearly all of our wedding and while it says their names on the invite just like yours I am having the return address and RSVPs come to me. I am handling the guest list and who RSVPs, I need to know the numbers, no one else wanted that job. Since I don’t live near my parents it just doesn’t make sense to me to have the RSVPs go there when I am the one who needs the information. So that’s what I am going to do, not sure if it’s proper or not but I’m doing it!

ETA: Our wedding is taking place where me/FI live too, not where my parents live.

Post # 4
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@StL.Ashley:  My friend had all her RSVPs go to her wedding planner – the return address was still theirs.  Whoever is actually tracking the numbers and meal choices should receive the RSVP’s.  I would think that having the return address the same as the RSVP address would make the most sense.  That was you’re not getting an invite back as wrong addresses and forgetting to tell your parents and they’re thinking they have to track down an RSVP from people who never actually got their invite!

Post # 6
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would use your adress this way there is no conffusion or miscommunication and you can track RSVP’s .

Post # 7
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Definitely have them sent to you. I’ve learned people have also used that address to send gifts and cards, or at least that’s what my family has done since we’ve gotten a gift already.

Post # 8
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think Old World Etiquette says it should go to the hosts (your parents), but it’s a super out-dated rule!

I would just get everything sent to you. Especially if your parents are scatter-brained!

Post # 9
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@StL.Ashley:  My parents are footing over half the wedding costs for the venue/food too (I’m paying for my dress, invites, centerpieces, veil, dj, officiant, photographer), but I’m having the RSVP’s come to me because I have it all on an excel sheet. And I’m going to be calling people if I don’t get an RSVP anyways, so I’ll need to know. I’m a little OCD about organizing things and being able to see what the outcome is on everything….and my parents don’t mind! It’s all good. Talk with your parents some more and see what they think.

Post # 10
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t have trusted ANYone but me to handle my RSVP’s, and even though we were fortunate enough that our parents paid for our weddings, all RSVP’s came from us, and we did all of the leg work on the entire thing. (well most of it)

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