Post # 1
I don’t know if this extremely tacky, smart, or against the law 🙂 but I was wondering if anybody had done this and how it worked out→
So there are a couple things I want for my centerpieces that are sold at Ikea. Some cute blue mugs in my color that I’d use as vases for silk flowers. And some small silver lanterns.
I need to buy maybe 14 of these things for the tables. I’m not going to use them for anything except setting in the middle of a table for 5 hours. Ikea has a 90 return policy, so I was considering buying them a month or two before, taking them out of the boxes the day of and setting up the centerpieces, then taking everything down after, putting them back in their boxes and returning them to the store.
I obviously have no use for 14 silver lanterns. So is this a huge scary no-no or has anybody done it before? I know I’ve heard of people doing it with shoes and dresses, and that’s when it’s actually worn! so…anyway. Chew me out 😀
Post # 3
I understand people may have a tight budget and every little thing counts – but personally, if you cannot afford to buy it and keep it, then don’t buy it.
no one wants to buy something someone has intentially used and returned, even if it’s in great condition. this is why our costs will go up if every shopper is like this.
sorry i dont mean to be critical but to be honest, it seems cheap to use and return something.
i hope you can find something within your budget for decoration, or just allow the guest to take it home so you won’t need to keep all 14 lanterns.
Post # 4
ETA This is your conscience speaking- you already know this is wrong
“A person who would do that has no ethics. Is that the person you are? or want to be?
Is that how you want to start off your marriage? Is that how you intend to bring up children?
How would you feel if you owned a small store and your customers bought things, used them, and then returned them?
How would you keep your store open and providing a living for you and your family?
Please don’t try to rationalize that IKEA is a big store. The situation is exactly the same.
If you want them, buy them and re-sell them after the wedding. If you can’t afford that, don’t buy them.”
Post # 5
I voted for #2. It’s a funny idea. I’ve probably only done this once in my life for a small item, but I can’t even remember what it was. I would feel guilty doing it for 14 identical items though. But it’s up to you, don’t worry about what other people think, just worry about how you feel about it.
You could always buy some used center pieces off ebay. I’ve even seen some decoration rental places that rent vases. So there are other options for you to look at. You could also buy the centerpieces and then resell them on ebay or craigslist. I’m sure there are other brides on a tight budget that would want to reuse yours.
Post # 6
I’d probably think about it – but ultimately I think it’s kind of shady.
Could you get away with it? Sure. But I don’t think my conscience would let me. Just resell them after the wedding. You can recoup most of your money and also give another bride a deal since you could knock a few bucks off the price.
Post # 7
I would suggest just trying to sell them after your wedding. Post them right here in the classifieds. People check them every day, and I’m sure someone will have a use for 14 silver lanterns 🙂 I think it’s more ethical this way (though I don’t think you’re a bad person for thinking about it!)
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
Wow, people are serious about this issue. LOL. SERIOUSLY DO YOU WANT TO DAMAGE YOUR LIFE IN SUCH AN AWFUL WAY??? ARE YOU A DRUG DEALER??? ARE YOU GOING DOWN???
I dont think it’s that big a deal, but I wouldn’t do it. I’ve done this 1x when I was a teen (with a hot pair of shoes I wanted to wear 1x), and I felt really bad about it, so I never did it again. *shrug* If you’re already questioning it, you are probably the kind of person that would feel guilty afterwards, so I just wouldn’t. 😉
Post # 9
@bellagio: lol, I know! I haven’t even done it and I’m already destroying future generations. You’re probably right that if even when the idea first pops into my head I feel shady about it, then actually doing it would make me feel super guilty. Just wondering what other people thought. I’m sure it’s vendors who are going crazy about it, because they use and reuse things the same way. Anyway, thanks for everyones input 😀
Post # 10
If you can’t afford the expense, then don’t buy it. It’s not illegal but it’s not ethical to buy something and return it after using it. Many stores have return policies stating that unless there is something clearly defective, they will not refund you for the product purchase after it has been used.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
Can I also just go OT here for a minute, and say I love your Childlike Empress icon? I totally stole the idea and used Labyrinth.
Anyway, I still remember the look on the girl’s face when I said I hadn’t worn them (like “uh huh. really”) *face palm* That was 10+ years ago.
Post # 12
I definitely would not do that. Like others have said, if you cannot afford it then don’t buy it.
One thing I would be worried about would be someone taking them. If you really want to re-coup your money try selling them on Craigslist, Ebay or WB.
Post # 13
I think you should buy it and resell it to anoter bride. That way it’s legit she knows it’s used so you don’t have to worry about the ethical part of it. Or you can do whatever you want I personally only retun things that I have decided not to use or changed my mind on I’m a HUGE return girl but it’s always on things that didn’t perform to my liking or I decided I didn’t need. I have never done this after using something then again I am big bargain girl so whatever I buy I feel like I got a good enough deal to resell and be happy with whatever I make from it.
Post # 14
Its totally wrong…but a part of me thinks its not THAT bad. LOL. I’d probably do it.
Post # 15
Perhaps it’s not completely ethical but to be totally honest, I would be tempted as well.
Post # 16
@bellagio: 🙂 I know I love this icon, I didn’t make it, just grabbed it from an icon community on LJ years ago but it screamed wedding and I had to use it.
I totally understand the arguments. I guess the reasoning in my head was that if I purchased something that had been used in a similar way from a store I wouldn’t mind. I probably will just end up selling them or passing them along to someone else. Doing the same with my dress. Oh and keeping in mind here, these lanterns are like $6 each, not $600 🙂 I’m just cheap and have been poor before so my waste radar goes off when forced to purchase things I’m using for 5 hours, lol.