Post # 1
Just after some advice.. I have recently been asked to be a bridesmaid for a friends wedding in April 2012. I am getting married October 2012, and wasn’t going to aske her, but now that she has asked me, i feel like I should ask her, since our weddings are so close, I am afraid she might be hurt by me not asking her. Our FH are best friends and are in each others bridal groups, so I feel very torn! Also, she has 4 other bridesmaids, which she asked over a year ago to be in the wedding already, and since her FH is only having 4, she has to move a BM away from a partner, and put me in. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I already had in my head who I was going to ask, but now I’m very unsure!
Post # 3
@Jayney:she bumped a bm for you? Did I read that right? She had 4 and had to bump one for you to be in it? oh man that’s rough!
Post # 4
I guess it depends on why you didn’t want her . . . Was it because you already have too long a list of potential BMs? Or because you aren’t that close to her? Or because you don’t think she’ll make a good BM?
In any of the above situations, I wouldn’t ask her. You don’t have to, although it might cause a bit of friction.
As an alternative (that I wouldn’t dare claim as my original idea- I see it on WB all the time, lol), could you ask her to do something alternative? Like doing a reading, or being a hostess?
Post # 5
Yes, you read it correctly, she bumped a bridesmaid away from a male partner, so I could be with a partner, and the bumped bm is walking down the isle with her daughters instead. She would make a great bm, she has already given me so much support, and offered to go trying on wedding dresses with me. We had originally decided on 3, my fh has 3 great friends, so if it went to 4, he would have trouble picking a 4th i think.. Argh what to do, what to do??
Post # 6
If you really want her as a BM, don’t worry about uneven sides. Mine were, and it looked just fine. If you’re not comfortable asking her or if the only reason to ask her is because she asked you, don’t.