- 6 years ago
How does your SO respond to it? I’m in no way trying to play games with my SO, but I acted the opposite of how he expected me to act in a certain situation, and he ended up deciding to do what I wanted him to without me asking him to. I was pretty surprised.
Here’s the situation:
We moved in together about a month ago, and I’ve gotten pretty used to him being around all the time, especially at night, so when he says he’s going to spend the weekend at his parents’ house, I get upset. I really try not to get upset, but I just hate missing him. I feel much safer when he’s there, but I’m starting to feel better about being there by myself.
Last time this happened, we had a huge fight, and I’ll admit, I overreacted. A lot of it has to do with work, because he works 12 hour shifts some weekends and he would rather drive the 45 minutes to their house than the hour to our apartment.
This weekend, I decided to act the opposite of how I usually act. Every time he said he was going to his parents’ house, instead of begging him to stay, I just said, “Okay, have a good time!” He would get confused and go, “I mean, uh, I could stay if you want me to. Do you think I should go?” And, I’d tell him, it’s his call, and I’d be alright there without him. This morning, when we woke up, he said he decided to stay home this weekend.
I want to stress again, that this was in no way me trying to play games. It was an excercize in changing my attitude, and it actually worked out for the better. Would you consider this reverse psychology and has it ever worked for you?