(Closed) REVISED:How long did you wait from deciding on a ring together till engagement?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How long did you wait between deciding on a ring together until your engagement?
    Under a month : (21 votes)
    24 %
    1-2 months : (22 votes)
    25 %
    3-4 months : (19 votes)
    22 %
    5-6 months : (8 votes)
    9 %
    7-8 months : (2 votes)
    2 %
    9-10 months : (4 votes)
    5 %
    11-12 months : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Over a year : (9 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think I hinted about rings for 2 years, but I decided on the final ring a year before he proposed. I know when he actually purchased it, it took two weeks to make and he proposed within 12 hours of getting it. I’m sure he made his mind up about marrying me before that (we were together for 4 years and he said he was ready to marry me two years into the relationship) but I think he waited until he had money saved before making the trip to design/purchase it. My ring for reference (it was custom because they did not have asscher solitaires in stock):

    Oh and I consider us as deciding on a ring together because I told him numerous times what I wanted, and then he went out and made it happen. He did the shopping alone though, without telling me he was going.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    FI waited a week. We went to the shop on a Saturday and I picked out 2 or 3 that I really liked. I left and he made the final decision. A week later he proposed!

    Post # 4
    Member
    1855 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    FI sat on my ring for 8 months after I showed it to him! Kept it in his closet with me none the wiser.  I didn’t know he’d even purchased it so it was a total surprise for me!

    Post # 5
    Member
    2894 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t know how to answer. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Technically technically, it was 3 months because we had a custom job so between the purchase and proposal it was 3 months due to the time it took to make.

    But even more technically it was 8 months. We decided on what we wanted 8 months before the proposal. The problem was just finding the person who could sell it/make it for us that would give us a reasonable price point and or quality of work. 

    You may be surprised by how much of a surprise it is. My guy is the worst liar, we live in the same house, I was involved in every last detail of the process and even knew the estimated date it would be completed. He still, somehow, managed to pull one over on me. I was totally convinced there had been a problem and the ring wasn’t ready and he wasn’t ready to pay off the balance. Oh, how wrong I was. You never know. He may really suprise you. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 6
    Member
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    You left out an option for those of us whose fiances didn’t ask us about the ring, just purchased it and proposed because they “love complete suprrises.”

    … which is what mine did. Tongue Out

    Post # 7
    Member
    869 posts
    Busy bee

    Oh no….  I really really hope you’re just curious/interested in hearing the stories.  Please don’t think “Most bees voted “under 1 month” so it must be happening soon!”  You’ll drive yourself crazy. ๐Ÿ™‚  Happy to hear you have a ring in your horizon, whenever that may be.

    Post # 8
    Member
    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My FI had been asking some fairly obvious questions about what I wanted and my ring size for about a month before we went ring shopping. He finally surprised me with a trip to the mall around mid-January where we chose my ring. I knew he was getting a bonus at work and we were leaving on vacation at the end of January. He proposed in early February, while on vacation.

    I will admit, if I’d come home from that trip without a ring, I would have been very disappointed.

    Post # 9
    Member
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I will never………………EVER understand the concept of a guy buying a ring, letting the girl know that he has the ring, and arbitrarily making her wait to receive it and become engaged.  I’m not trying to sound judgmental, I just truly don’t get it.

    FI and I picked up the ring together when it was ready and he proposed that evening.

    Post # 10
    Member
    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Three years.  Not kidding.  He asked me to send him my top 3 picks from Tiffany’s, and apparently my #1 was also on his top 3 list, so he decided on that.  Then 3 years went by until he got the go-ahead to propose.  Then he waited a month, bought the ring, and proposed 2 weeks later.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My H proposed that night!

    Post # 12
    Member
    344 posts
    Helper bee

    I am the mother of the groom. Our son told us 2 months ago that he was going to propose, he has the ring already.

    I don’t understand the waiting either. My husband proposed right away.

    I almost wish he wouldn’t have told us until he was ready to do it.

    Post # 13
    Member
    93 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Mine shopped all on his own also. I had NO clue. Everyone else knew. I was on the phone with my mom and I didn’t feel good and I was telling her I just wanted to go to bed. She kept bugging me and telling me I couldn’t just go to bed, it was so early. I thought that was odd. Next thing I know our son walked in and had a ring. I looked up and there was my FI with the video camera. I was shocked. I aske him if he was joking(yes I was that girl). Afterwards my mom said the whole time she was on the phone with me she wanted to tell me to go brush my hair!

    Post # 14
    Member
    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada โ™ฅ EDD- April 2016

    We agreed on the setting and he ordered it five months before he actually proposed. He purchased the center stone and had it set less than a month before though (: I knew that I would have to wait for him to save up for the center stone so I understand why I had to wait (even though I knew he had the setting). I like that it was a surprise, I never knew exactly when it was finished until after he had proposed.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1595 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Juliepants:  My SO wanted it to be a complete surprise, so even though I had a say in the purchase of the ring- he wanted the actual proposal to be more romantic than just handing over the ring.

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