right age to have a baby?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: what age to have a child
    16-20 : (1 votes)
    0 %
    21-25 : (35 votes)
    13 %
    25-30 : (169 votes)
    65 %
    30-35 : (57 votes)
    22 %
    40+ : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    8677 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    “When you’re ready” needs to be an option. There is no numerical age someone strikes and simply becomes “ready”, especially when there are so many factors that go into being “ready” for a baby.

    I don’t think there is a numerical age that is right.

    Post # 4
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Just based on experiences and everyone around me, 23. All my family, FI’s family and friends have kids between 22-24. I honestly don’t know if I can wait until 23 but am seriously trying my hardest! For us owning a house, graduating and having good jobs was most important and we’ve already done that! 

    Post # 5
    4041 posts
    Honey bee

    Obviously, when you are ready, but I think personally, 29-30 is ideal for us. By then, we are hoping to be more financially stable, established in our careers, own a home and have traveled/pursued personal interests for quite some time.


    Post # 6
    6447 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Hyperventilate:  +1

    There is no numerical age that is right for everyone. I have friends that want them right this second (early 20s) and I don’t plan on having a child until I’m at least 30. 

    As far as the things you pointed out: I would never try to raise a baby alone (without a partner), I want a house before I have a child and I’m not sure I’ll ever feel ready financially (even though we could definitely support a child). However, those are my personal choices and I know plenty of people who don’t want the same things I do.

    Post # 7
    2537 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I don’t think there’s a specific age. It’s a mental, emotional, and financial maturity that comes at different times for different people. 

    Edit: For us, it’ll hopefully come soon after we lose weight and hopefully in the next two years so we’ll be in the 25-30 range.


    Post # 8
    2694 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’m in the when we’re ready boat. Maybe by the time I’m 32. I want to do a ton of traveling first, buy a house and have lots of money saved. 

    Post # 9
    752 posts
    Busy bee

    @nearlymarriedlass:  Well, we’re currently TTC…I’m 32 and I wish we would have gotten our shit together sooner than we did lol!  I voted for 25-30.  

    Post # 10
    555 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I’m 24, and while I don’t own my own home, I still feel comfortable in being an expecting mother. Ive traveled, lived all over this country, studied, and dated, and I’m ready to move on to this newest chapter in life without regrets. I have great credit, and means to successfully raise a child. My mother was 32 when she had me, and passed away recently at 55. Her own mother passed away at 51. If we’re judging by age, I have until im around 59. I feel that my children would be better settled into adulthood than I was if I should pass that young. The only thing I really would like to have is a house before the baby comes in June, but as my husband and I are both military, while its financially feasible, it wouldn’t make sense to buy a home and move 3 -years later. I think we’ll just end up renting.

    Post # 11
    237 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    31 for me

    Post # 12
    1887 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @nearlymarriedlass:  The brain doesn’t stop growing until the mid twenties, so personally I think one should wait at a very minimum until 25 to consider intentionally getting pregnant. The frontal lobe continues to develop into the mid twenties, and this area is responsible for complex cognitive tasks such as behavioral inhibition, high-level functioning, and attention. While I see 25 as a respectable minimum, I personally I think 28-35 is ideal, and favor going over that age range as opposed to starting below it.  I am a fan of couples waiting to have kids until they are married and secure in their relationship, have completed advanced college degrees, and have become established and successful in professional career fields.  More years in one’s age equals more life experience, so older parents often have more wisdom and experience to draw from when making important parenting decisions. 

    Edit to add:

    There is no need to tag me to tell me any stories about some 40 year old crack addict you know that’s a terrible mom, or some amazing 17 year old you know who is your BFF and the best mommy ever.  I realize that there are exceptions, some rather extreme, to every rule.  My opinion is based on biology, specifically when the brain stops growing and when the body’s reproductive capabilities significantly slow down. 

    Post # 13
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    It’s different for every person. I think it’s awfully young to have a child in one’s early 20s, but I have known some great young mothers. I think in general 25-30 is a good age, but some people need to be older, and some can manage younger.

    We will likely TTC when I am 25 or 26.

    Post # 14
    5482 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I said 30+ just bc my friend group is just now 30 and people just started thinking about babies 🙂

    Post # 15
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    When you’re financially and emotionally as ready as you can be.

    Post # 16
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I think the concept of an arbitrary “perfect age” is absurd.

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