Post # 1
It seems as though my BF might not be THE one. I have my (deceased) gtandmothers’ original (small) engagement stones that I was planning on making into a 5-stone e-ring. It is extremely hard to leave this relationship, and I was thinking about getting the e-ring made anyway, so I could remind myself of ME, what I need, and that although sometimes it is going to suck being without the man I envisioned myself with, I CAN do this on my own.
That said, wearing my future engagement ring on my right hand? Isn’t that getting ahead of myself? I feel like it seems a little creepy… therefore, I would like input, please…
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp
I understand how hard it is to leave a relationship – way to go for being so strong!
I think you should have your ring made – definitely as a reminder of what you can do on your own!
That said, do you think it necessarily needs to be an "engagement" ring? It was an e-ring once, it could be a family heirloom now, and maybe in the future it could once again be an e-ring. But for right now, it could be your family heirloom ring.
Post # 4
I think it’s a great idea to make it a right hand ring. However, I wouldn’t plan for it to be used for an E ring. It’s an amazing heirloom and it will remind you to be strong and independent. By slating it as a future Ering you are attaching a completely different and almost opposite meaning to it.
In the future when you do find THE one do you really want to specify that the engagement ring he gives you be the ring that you’ve had made to remind you of your personal strength, family roots, and independance? You’re E’ring should represent you as a couple and he should feel that he is involved if not responsible for picking it out.
Plus.. this gives you the opportunity to have 2 amazing rings!!
I’m very sorry about your relationship though. It’s so hard to come to the realization that he isn’t THE one! Especially since it sounds like you really had a lot of hope for him. Good luck!
Post # 5
I agree! You should wear it on your right hand, and perhaps have the guy that ends up being your FI propose to you with something he wants to give you. You’ll still have your grandmothers’ ring, but then you’ll have two rings, and each will have a distinct memory and feeling attached to it, so you get the best of two worlds. Your engagement will represent you and your FI, while your grandmothers’ ring is a reminder that you are still yourself.
I’m sorry you’re realizing he may not be THE one. You will find him, so don’t let yourself remain unhappy if it ultimately isn’t what you want!
Post # 6
I say go for it! I have a right hand ring and it symbolizes that I am an Independent woman and that the sky is the limit! That sounds gorgeous. It’s a right handed family heirloom and when you do meet the ONE, he can buy you that engagement ring then! Then you have TWO gorgeous rings..and one with a family history too.
Post # 7
I have a friend with a right hand ring that she bought for herself after a yucky relationship ended. She calls it her "freedom ring". It’s her reminder to herself that she has the freedom to make the hard choices and do what is best for herself, freedom to not settle for the wrong guy b/c it’s the right time, freedom to just be who she is and loved for that reason alone. I think it’s a pretty cool idea….and it would be a family heirloom which will make it mean SO much more.
Post # 8
I wear a right hand ring that my mother gave to me last year. My parents are divorced, but while they were married my mother wore this ring as part of a set with her engagement ring and wedding band. I happily wear it on my right hand, and while I think it would be a beautiful gesture to somehow incorporate it into a proposal someday, for now I just enjoy it as a beautiful, sentimental ring. Sounds like you could do that as well!