Post # 1
Ok, so most of the detail on my dress is on the left side of my dress, meaning, if I stand on the left side of the church facing my husband, the minister is going to have the best view of my dress most of the time! Soooo, my question is, does the bride HAVE to stand on the left and the groom on the right or is this tradition frequently broken?
Post # 3
I Jewish Ceremony’s it is the other way around. The Bride stands on the right.
Post # 4
@RuthEslick: Is it a rule written in stone? If not, then stand where you want!
Post # 5
I would double check with the minster, if he/she says it is okay, then go for it!
Post # 6
Most wedding traditions are remnants of the Middle Ages when they were all invented. Thus the bride stands to the groom’s left since his right was always free to grab his sword to protect her from captors. In this day and age, you have the freedom to do whatever you want since there is no law on where you have to stand. Couples stand in whatever arrangement they want and no one can decide that for them.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’d be a big deal at all for you to switch. I know I’m only going to be on the left because that’s “my” side (of the bed, in pictures, while walking…) lol.
Post # 8
It would freak me out a little if the girl was on the “wrong” side. But my Fiance says I am an old person because I love traditional. How long is the ceremony? All your guests will get to see you for the hours of the reception and they will have a closer view of the detailing so I wouldn’t be too worried about the lack of view during the ceremony. Plus the walk up and walk down the aisle the guests again will get a close view of the detailing.
Post # 9
@rbabyrolle: Yeah, but the ceremony pictures won’t show it…..
Post # 10
It never even occurred to me that there was a tradition for the sides. Rock that detail of the dress for your guests. It’ll be fine. 🙂
Post # 11
You should definitely stay on the left. If you are attacked by rebel armies during the ceremony you will want your fiancÃ© to have easy access to his sword.
Also take into account guests will generally seat themselves on the left if they are from the brides side, and vice versa, so guests might get confused if they end up sitting on the ‘wrong’ side.
If you walk down the aisle on your dads/escorts left side, then your dress detailing will be more viable than if you walk on the right.
I think it would be easier in the long run to stay on the left. Everyone will want to check out your dress properly after the ceremony anyway. But in the long run it doesn’t matter either way (unless your fiancÃ© loses precious seconds accessing his sword to defend you during rebel attacks.)
Post # 12
I used to think it was really weird if I saw the bride on the right, but once we started going to FI’s family weddings and seeing things switched (he’s Jewish), I didn’t think it was so weird anymore!
Post # 13
I would stand where you want. It won’t affect your marriage!
Post # 14
The bishop marrying us told me I was to stand to his left so my FIs right. Maybe that’s a mormon thing Idk?
I like right side of my face better so I asked him if I could stand on the left and he said yes.
I say stand where you like. I’m sure your minister won’t mind.
Post # 15
Omg, I never thought of this – my detail is all on the left, as well! Are we dress twins!? Haha.
I had been imagining standing on the right (looking from up the aisle/the guests point of view) but hadn’t realized there was a tradition to take into account.
Post # 16
What’s with people saying “stand where you want, it’s your wedding”?
Um.. what? It can depends on where you have CHOSEN to get married. Many cultures have traditions, and it’s rude to CHOOSE a place to get married and then ignore their customs.
I wish I had more helpful advice than that, but it’s really going to depend on where you’re getting married. Sorry.