Post # 1
I was hoping to get a quick sanity check because I am majorly sleep deprived so I don’t know if I’m overreacting to the situation or not.
Backstory: Last night my FI and I got home only to discover that due to the earthquake the water pipe in our bathroom broke flooding the entire bathroom. We were up until about 3am with our landlord trying to figure out what to do. We ended up shutting off the water to half of the building with the plan that bright and early on Saturday at 9am the plumber would come. My FI and I had been talking about going to a special event for Twin Peaks Saturday morning, he really wanted to go but I was ambivilant.
Today: I get up really early to get ready for the plumber, he wakes up a bit later and goes off to the Twin Peaks thing while I stay home to have fun with the plumber. I realize that being a bit miffed that he’s off having fun while I’m stuck with the plumber is over reacting, but he had since called a number of times wanting updates and telling me what I should tell the plumber. I’m bugged because part of me feels that if you want to know whats going on and give all sorts of directions he should be here, a wierd case of having cake and eating it to.
I’m not looking for a preaching sermon, I’m just wondering if being very sleep deprived is affecting my attitude toward the situation. And if I should just let it drop.
Post # 2
Well, I guess if you asked him not to go and he went then you should be miiffed. But if you acted like it was ok for him to leave, you can’t expect him to read your mind and stay home.
Post # 3
You should just let it go. He’s still worried about the situation, obviously, which is why he’s checking in with you. At least he cares. He could’ve just gone and not cared and ignored you the whole time he was out. Instead, he went thinking that you were okay with it and instead you’re here fuming for no reason.
I don’t know if it’s sleep deprivation or just how you are, but seriously, it’s not a big deal.
Post # 4
raspberrymojito: +1. OP, it’s unclear if you told him you wanted him to stay home and wait for the plumber with you. If you didn’t, that’s on you and you need to learn how to communicate. If you did, that’s another story, but that’s not clear in what you wrote.
Post # 5
raspberrymojito: StephieBee: HannahGrace:
Thanks! I thought it might be sleep deprivation.
Post # 6
I vote sleep deprivation. I turn into a cranky two year old. Actually, my two yea wold granddaughter acts better.
Post # 7
renwoman: Anytime my man has fun and I can’t I get cranky. Go get some sleep and then go take the AMEX or whatever credit card he has and get your nails done or get a massage or something girly. I’m not generally a shallow or spoiled person, but those little things on his dime cheer me up and keep me from jabbing him with irrational, passive aggressive comments. My FI knows the fastest way to get back into my good graces is a perfect manicure and a sparkling clean engagement ring.