Post # 1
IMO, this should be required reading for every waiting bee. A Practical Wedding is an awesome site in general, and has helped steer my wedding planning in a very positive way, but today they did an article about waiting that really touches on a lot of what gets discussed and debated here.
Rights and Responsibilities for That Girl Who Is Desperate To Be Married
Post # 3
This is pure gold
“ You have the right to a say in your future even if you watch Say Yes to the Dress. If you’ve ever watched a wedding show, been a bridesmaid, or looked at a wedding album posted on Facebook, it’s assumed that you’re “obsessed with weddings” and therefore don’t get to have an adult, mature conversation about them. I’m so over watching women’s feelings get dismissed just because we live in a culture that glorifies weddings.”
Post # 4
@Bunny82: I see this happen pretty frequently on here and it makes me sad. 🙁
Post # 5
Thanks for sharing this!! Good read!!
Post # 6
@Bunny82: I wish that paragraph could somehow be stickied on here as well as the first point:
1. You have the right to a say in your future. It’s not just that I have a right to know where my relationship is heading; it’s that I get a to have a f*cking say in where my relationship is heading. By accepting the “pop the question” or “put a ring on it” mentality, men are given all the power and it send a clear message that what women want doesn’t matter. But it does matter.
It sums up how I see waiting
Post # 7
I enjoyed this one. It had true points and makes you think about what society tells women and men about how/what they need to be
Post # 8
My DH’s friend was having a fight with his long term SO tonight about marriage and my sappy Darling Husband wants to spend a ton of money on gas to go to another city for ONE MEAL to comfort him this weekend even though I have recently quit my job without having another one lined up. Friggen guys.
Post # 9
This is a great article. I agree that the women should have just as much of a say in when to get married as the man does. If timelines are different then a compromise should be made. That being said, I’m really glad I mentioned to my Fiance about how important it was to me to be engaged soon. I’m not so glad that I hounded him so much for it but that’s a different story in itself . BUT I’m glad I discussed things with him so that he was able to clearly know my wants and needs and maybe hurry it up a bit more than he would have if I hadn’t said a thing about it.
Post # 11
@GreenDream: a…youre his bro. he doesn’t need to drive to comfort his old ones EVERY time!
and this artical is common sense. if he strings you along by putting himfirsr, call an old friend (yourself) and put them first or at least equal to !
Post # 12
‘Let’s stop blaming Cinderella and take a look at what’s going on with Prince Charming, too.’
Post # 13
I’m commenting so I can find this easily later. Great article! Just what a waiting girl needs to read!
Post # 14
@EffieTrinket: Thank you for posting this!
I agree with everything in this article, and it is a point of view that reflect the times and relationships as they are now.
I am often surprised by how many women come onto the waiting boards and post replies like, “do you really want to pressure someone to marry you”, and otherwise “shaming” the waiting bees, as described in this article. I feel like they came in a time machine from the 1950’s
Post # 15
@EffieTrinket: OMG, this is awesome!! Thank you so much!
@Waitingtoexhale: I am often surprised by how many women come onto the waiting boards and post replies like, “do you really want to pressure someone to marry you”, and otherwise “shaming” the waiting bees, as described in this article. I feel like they came in a time machine from the 1950’s
I feel like some clarification is needed. 🙂 When you see comments to waiting bees about “do you really want to pressure someone to marry you?”, it’s usually because it’s a girl who is going about the marriage conversation in an unhealthy way. It’s one thing for the couple to sit down and have a heart to heart talk about their future and marriage together and come to a place in agreement (this is encouraged here)… it’s another thing for a woman to nag and whine and cry about the future and marriage when the conversation has already taken place, and her partner is moving in that direction, but for any number of reasons is not yet ready. Hope This Helps.
Post # 16
This is a great article. Thank you for sharing!