(Closed) Ring and Culture

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
569 posts
Busy bee

@Anardana:  i think the emphases should be on the engagement PERIOD. who cares how big the stone is? i don’t. every couple and every person has their own personal taste. why make it more complicated than that?

Post # 4
79 posts
Worker bee

I’m in Australia. Here, I think it depends on whether you’re city or rural. I think it’s far more usual for city dwellers to adopt the big-is-better style. In rural areas, I think it’s more common to see smaller rings, although I think that may be a combination of lower wages, practicality with jobs, and a humble attitude.

I’m not engaged yet, so… no ring. My style is typically understated, so I’ll be going for somewhere in the middle ground.

Post # 7
2907 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

When I visit DH’s family, they think my ring is huge. When I go to nearby DC, or visit friends in NYC or SF, they wonder why my ring is so small. It’s not necessarily about being flashy, it’s about what fits with where you live.


And… for us, I just wanted a ring that cost more than our TV. ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 8
587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I heard from a girl in the UK (I’m American) that she was surprised by the expectations that American girls have. @grace_k: I agree that it is likely a factor of city/rural. The states are so so big so you can expect to find extrememly different cultures in different parts of the country. It’s just too big of a country to generalize about but if I were to do so, I’d agree that showing wealth is more common. Though I would be extremely self conscious if I had a ring that made people wonder if we could afford it!!

Post # 9
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I recently moved from the US to the UK after getting married.

In the US I was living in NYC and working in finance. My ring was probably on the average to small size for my location and industry.

Here in the UK it is much larger than anything I usually see people wearing. The only place I’ve seen one larger was when I was out at a fancy hotel bar on a woman who looked like her entire body had undergone plastic surgery.

I have a 1.5c stone and I love it, but depending on the area & industry I’m in it can run any where from small to really large. 

It seems that diamonds are much more expensive in the UK than they are in the US, probably because of VAT so that may have something to do with it as well.

Post # 12
22 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

I live in the UK but I come from Slovakia. The idea of engagement rings is quite foreign there. If you get an engagement ring, I think according to tradition it can be any ring or any ring with a white/colourless stone in it and it doesn’t matter whether the stone is natural or not. It is very unusual to see big diamonds, mostly because we don’t have that tradition. And you never see married women wearing their engagement ring (if they have one) and their wedding band together, they would only wear the wedding band.

But then again, engagement traditions are quite different in Slovakia anyway. Traditionally, when a couple decides to get married, the man needs to ask the future bride’s parents for approval or their blessing if you like, and it all can be done in quite a ceremonial way with a party afterwards Smile

Post # 14
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m an American transplanted in the Netherlands, and here having an engagement ring at all is not really expected (I’d say about 80% get rings). People here generally hate to borrow money for anything, with the obvious exceptions like education and a home. They pay for cars in full and grocery stores generally don’t accept credit cards.

When ring talk came up for us, I started at my (American) regional standard expectations, minimum 1 ct. When I said this to some of our Dutch friends, they nearly spit their drinks out because they couldn’t imagine anyone spending so much money (or even borrowing that much money) to pay for a ring. Slowly my expectations became a bit more realistic, and I said I’d be happy with something around .2 ct. In the end, we were able to reset my grandmother’s diamond into a new ring for me. It is right around .5 ct and it set as a simple solitaire. I love it! my fingers are pretty narrow, so I feel like anything bigger would have looked pretty strange anyway.

The most interesting part for me is the reactions. Americans say that my ring is cute, and generally focus more on the excitement of the engagement (which I agree is the whole point anyway!). The Dutch people that see it say “OMG IT IS SO HUUUUGE!! Doesn’t it get stuck on everything?” or some variation of that.

Also worth noting, if I go into Amsterdam, I generally leave my ring at home or turn the stone so it is in my hand. I get a little nervous that such a “big” diamond might call attention to me as a good target for crime.

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