Post # 1
I have a question about our ring bearer. I should firstly add that I am happy to have a ringbearer. He is a fabulous boy (age 7) who is so well behaved and also the biggest sweet heart. My issue is this, I don’t think its necessary that he needs to be at the Headtable. However; my mother is adamant that he NEEDS to be there.
I am unsure on a few levels. Even though he is so sweet and well behaved, he is still young enough to be a bit silly in front of crowds. Plus all my cousins his age will be at the kid table together. Not to mention, with 12 members of the bridal party plus my fiance and I, the head table is already so large. I feel that since he is with us all day (from the early morning “Getting ready” to the limo and pictures, that should be sufficient. Maybe he’d want some less serious kid time anyways.)
Any opinions? Does my ring bearer need to be at the Headtable? I love him to death, but I’m conflicted.
Thanks Everyone 🙂
Post # 3
Is his mother in the bridal party/at the head table? If she is I would go with her wishes and seat her son with her. If she isn’t sitting at the head table, I would put him at the kids table or sitting with her wherever she is. Maybe she’s concerned he’ll act out around the other kids but will behave better if he is seated with adults?
Post # 4
I personally do not think he needs to be at the head table. My ring bearer nor my flower girls will be at the head table.
Post # 5
If you have a kids table I would definitely put him there. I can imagine he might be a little upset at finding out that all the other kids are at a table having fun, while he is stuck at an adult table. I don’t think his mom being at the head table makes much difference. The other kids being put at the kids table aren’t sitting with their parents either.
Post # 6
Is it YOUR mother or HIS mother that wants him at the head table? It seems like other posters are answering as if his mom wants him there??
If its your mother, I’d talk to the kids mother and get her onside with seating him at the kids table. Then tell your mom that the kids mother thinks its a better idea for him to have some kid time. You don’t mess with parenting decisions :p. but i agree. All day and then all dinner is a long time for a 7 year old to be on best behavior. My head table physically only had room in it for max 8 but I assume youve spoken to them about seating 14?
Post # 7
The ring bearer and flower girl typically sit with their parents. So if their parents aren’t at the head table I see no reason why they should be.
Our ring bearer sat with my SIL and my junior bridesmaid sat with her parents both at another table. The head table was reserved for us and our bridesmaids/groomsmen only.
Post # 8
Thank you for your help everyone! His mother isn’t in the bridal party, and it’s in fact my mom who is pushing for him to be there (she really wants him “included”). I agree with you all that the kids table would be the best place for him! Thanks again! 🙂